I'm gonna drop kick my husband off a bridge.

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SilentStorm29
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   Posted 8/11/2010 6:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I just heard my husband tell my Aunt, that we will for sure go with her to yellostone in sep. After a full day of driving, without even asking me if I feel like I could make such a trip. I SOOO don't have the stamina for such a trip right now. And now he's trying to break into the room that I have locked myself into to tell me about "our" trip. I'm gonna move away.....
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   Posted 8/11/2010 8:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I feel your pain. Maybe tell hubby that the trip would be more doable (and easier on you ) if it was broken down into 2 days. I don't know how many hours away from yellowstone you are but I would suggest a halfway point and then an evening of early dinner and a relaxing stay at a clean motel. I have experience with a husband who wants to drive 'straight through'. Doesn't work for me anymore.
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SilentStorm29
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   Posted 8/11/2010 8:18 PM (GMT -7)   
It would be a little over 2 days just to get there. I tried suggesting we take the train, nope. He would not even hear of it, he "likes" to just drive sraight thru. I tried explaing to him that he needs to talk to me about these things before saying to famliy " yes, I'll go." but his only answer was, "you can do it." with a nice dismissive wave of his hand. I told him to go without me, and now he's gone for a drive. Much quieter without him. He says he won't go if I don't go. I tried to explain to him that I can't just "go" on long trips anymore without a second thought but he thinks if he can do it, so can I. Stupied man.
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   Posted 8/11/2010 8:29 PM (GMT -7)   
We use to drive from St. Louis, Mo. to Southern California in 2 days. Nuts. That is when my symptoms were getting really bad. We would stop at a rest stop and I would limp to the restroom. We had some 'warm' discussions about this. I just told him it was no fun for me once we reached our destination because I was sick for a week. We now make the trip in 3 days. It is better, but 4 days would even be better yet. Hope you guys can come to a compromise.
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SilentStorm29
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   Posted 8/11/2010 8:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Wish he would just enjoy his vacation with the rest of the family and leave me happily here with my animals, IBS seems to be setting in just in the last 2 days and that's another reason to stay close to home. I'm happy staying here.
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   Posted 8/11/2010 8:57 PM (GMT -7)   

I know how you feel....my husband thinks I am going to walk around a 7 acre Antique Fair next week for two days.  HAAAAAA HAAAA HAAAA...Uh, No.

Donna


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SilentStorm29
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   Posted 8/11/2010 9:01 PM (GMT -7)   
vestabula said...
I know how you feel....my husband thinks I am going to walk around a 7 acre Antique Fair next week for two days. HAAAAAA HAAAA HAAAA...Uh, No.

Donna


you husband and mine could be related. And the Antique fair thing? Been there, done that! It's no fun. Even better when it's 104 degrees out...
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   Posted 8/11/2010 9:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't mind a bit when my husband goes away for a week (well, I do miss him) but everything's easier, too. I can go at my own pace and just BE. It's even better when he takes the dogs, who are too rambunctious for my old bones....then it's just me and the cats. He's going camping for a week in September with his brothers, and I look forward to it.

I have a good friend who just doesn't ever seem to get what my life is like. She says, "What do you do to keep busy? Aren't you bored?" BORED? What's that? I try to explain that if you have 50 things a day that you need/want to do, and you can only do 10, you are always behind. On any given day, what to do? Take your pick!

Storm, it sounds like you've got your work cut out for you! Have you been married long? My husband used to not really understand, either, but now he does. Well, he can't feel my pain, but he believes me and respects my decisions. We had some hard times about it all when we were younger. He wishes (and so do I) that I could still camp and do all the stuff we used to do together, but that's not the way it is. I hope you can work it out.

Debbie
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   Posted 8/11/2010 9:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Storm, the IBS thing is one of the huge problems when we travel. I just don't eat anything the entire day. I will drink water and keep my Imodium close by. Just another fun fibro thing.
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SilentStorm29
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   Posted 8/11/2010 10:19 PM (GMT -7)   
We've been married almost 2 years. This IBS is a ever worsing problem. I can't be away from a potty for to long, he says were are not going on our trip. Works for me. I wish he was still going, my life is so much simpler and less stressful when he's gone. I like being by myself...
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Chutz
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   Posted 8/11/2010 10:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Silent!

I sure am sorry your hubby doesn't have much respect for what you are going through. Sounds like he needs some serious education on fibro. You do need to take him along to a doctor appointment with you and make sure you tell the doc ahead of time why you will be bringing him. The doc should set him straight on your limits.

I do travel and we do love going to Yellowstone and it takes us 3 days to get there...but I go by my choice, not someone telling me I have to go and then brushing me off. That's no way for a spouse to behave, that's not love. Can you talk to any of the family members and tell them why you need to either stay home or travel differently? He may be telling them all kinds of things about your capabilities. Don't be pushed around. Calmly get the respect you need. We're right here beside you!

Chutz

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   Posted 8/12/2010 4:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Yes, take him to the doctor with you. My husband was a changed man after that, and he has been supportive ever since. He now always asks if I am ok with "driving straight through." I almost always say no....and he's ok with that.
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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:32 AM (GMT -7)   
oh it has been too long since I have been on here. I swear it helps me more then the doctors sometimes yeah I had IBS for years before they told me I had Firo. Tried every trick in the book and every med on the market. I thought the IBS-D was causing my aches and pains. I can function with pain right now but not with the D. I am on Savella right now and it helps the IBS SOOOO much.It also helps with the energy and pain. Please ask your Dr. about it. Instead of just taking pain meds try to treat the cause. Also Donnatal helps with the IBS-D but it makes you tired. I made my fiancee read some of the post on here a year ago and it really helps for them to know that we are not just a big baby, that others are also like us. Helps me too smilewinkgrin  Hang in there, we feel your pain AND anger.
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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Wanted to add the IBS forum helps me alot. I could stay on here all day but have to go to work cry
Psoriasis and Ps arthritis, Fibro,IBS,Bursitis,DDD of neck.Meds:Savella,Flexeril at night, Humira(afraid to start it)

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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:35 AM (GMT -7)   
It took my husband a long time to understand that I am just not up to a lot of family functions. He had finally accepted that it was alright for him to go places without me. Now though he doesn't want to leave my side because of the cancer. I feel so bad because he missed his sisters wedding last weekend. I left it up to him though and he could have rode up with his sister. He wanted to stay home though. Hopefully your husband will come around soon to the fact that it is just too hard for you.
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