Coping with my clothing size

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Witchesblew
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   Posted 8/13/2010 10:26 PM (GMT -7)   
So I went shopping today for my trip to Las Vegas next wek. I usually wear a 14 which is up from last year cause all my wonderful fibro meds and flare ups have made me gain 40 lbs. So I am at the store and tried a pair of size 14 capris, got to my hips and they went right back down!! The binding was driving me nuts. SOOOO I swallowed my pride and got the size 16 whichfit like a dream!!! Luckily for hubby it was a cope with my size kinda mood day so there were no major meltdowns about it.
Yesterday was shoes, I gave up what was trendy and cute and looked strictly for comfort.. Turened out some shoes I wouldnt have picked before were perfect and actually cute too!
 
Lesson learned....... Forget the size go for comfortable. idea Now hopefully I will survive 4 days in Vegas! turn
Angela

Fibromyalgia, Hysterectomy, CFS, Positive ANA test (unknown what autoimmune disease it is), Severe Carpal Tunnel,PCOS,Hip replacement
meds: Benicar, effexor, percoset, zofran, amitryptaline, premarin, multivitamins, valium

saintsfan
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   Posted 8/14/2010 4:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Comfort is my favorite word,lol. I had the same problem with clothing when we were getting ready to go to florida for vacation. I ended up buying a pair of size 16 shorts just for comfort. Since I've been on Savella though I've found that I've lost 8 pounds but I think it's the nausea from the meds( but NOT complaining, ha ha)There are some days my clothes hurt my skin and I wish I was naked but I found a greattshirt dress that I can wear that is very loose and much more comfortable.
Try not to worry about the size and focus on your trip-and have fun!
Dx: Fibro, HTN, Depression

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AustenFan
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   Posted 8/14/2010 5:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm glad you found something comfy. :-) Coming to terms with my size and limited fashion choices is something I had to do a few years ago. I still sometimes wish things could be different, especially when I see someone my age/size dressed really cute. I can't even wear jewelry to dress up an outfit, but oh well, I guess there are much more important things.

I pretty much wear black pants in the Winter, black capris in the Fall/Spring, and black shorts in the Summer. They are all elastic waist (from JC Penney), and I love them. I dress them up or down with cute tops and comfy sandals or tennis shoes. I do wear dress clothes to church. I figure I look decent enough, and I'm not uncomfortable!! yeah

I started feeling better about my fashion choices after I began watching "Everybody Loves Raymond" reruns. Have you ever noticed what the mom (Marie) wears? In most episodes, she ALWAYS has on a black shirt, black pants, and a pretty jacket/blouse over the top. I think she always looks really elegant. So I guess Marie Barrone is my fashion idol. devil turn

Hugs - Austen

sotiredoffibro
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   Posted 8/14/2010 6:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Angela, I guess I am one of those tomboys who absolutely hates dressing up for anything.lol Shoes have always been what is comfortable and t-shirts and jeans are my favorites. I do understand how depressing it is to have to go up in clothing size. But what the heck so we are a little bigger than we used to be, we are still lovable us. lol
I have to be honest though I had Gastric Bypass 7 years ago and I have gone from a 24 down to size 8. But there are times that it has gone back up into the 10, 11,and 12 range. I was ok with being heavy but my dr. told me at that time that if I didn't get the weight off I would probably only live another 5 years. So I did the surgery. I still have the large image of myself in the mirror though guess I will never lose that. lol
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Shirley
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Southernlady
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   Posted 8/14/2010 6:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Austen, that is so funny because I just commented to my husband on Marie's way of dressing this past week.  I think she is a neat dresser, but I would sure hate to have her for a mother-in-law.
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Sherrine
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   Posted 8/14/2010 7:16 AM (GMT -7)   
I was a REALLY large size woman most of my life but I did lose a lot of weight several years ago.  When young, I felt like the dark colors were all that looked good on me so practically everything I owned was black or navy blue and had absolutely no style at all.  I actually was trying to "disappear" and not stand out.  But, as I got older, I got to the point that I really didn't care what other people thought.  I LOVE color!  So now, that's all I wear...reds, rose, turquoise, lavendar and purple, etc.  These colors make me feel sooooo good and not "dowdy".  I'm not "hiding" anymore.  I'm still not small...I'm a size 16 mainly because of a huge, inoperable hernia....got to fit the clothing around that baby! 
 
I only have elastic waistbands, too.  If I had a regular waistband and it had to go around the hernia, the legs would look like clown pants on me!  So it's elastic and also a cotton/polyester blend fabric.  I find great capris in all colors online and they are very comfortable.
 
So, if you are dealing with comfort issues and weight issues, there are some really cute things out there.  Wear the colors you like, the patterns you like, and enjoy living!  You will feel better because you will feel happier.
 
Sherrine
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Irish Babe
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   Posted 8/14/2010 9:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Angela, not sure if we have spoken before, so I wanted to welcome you to the family! Hope you have a great trip to Vegas!!
 
It has to be comfortable or it has to be gone. For most of my life I bought/wore DARK pants due to horrible and frequent periods. I usually wore subdued colors. I was not terribly big - size 9, for many yrs., but I was not comfortable. I am very fair and I can wear most colors and now I do. I have always loved color - in my garden, in my house. I am like Sherrine, I love all the colors and my tops are bright or very deep. They cheer me up.
 
I usually live in jeans, t's and my sneakers. I used to live in my flops, but there is no support and I lose balance very easily. That's why I'm on a cane. (Another fashion statement LOL) I have dress pants and tops, don't do dresses and I never wear a bra. The pain from that torture device can send me over the edge. My tops are large b/c I can't stand to feel closed in and claustrophobic. Things touching my skin can cause such pain.
 
My clothes are comfortable, clean and neat and I think pretty, so that's enough for me.
 
Austen, you are too funny. But it is true, 'Marie' knows what works for her. That is what we have to remember, do what works for us on all levels of our lives. 
 
Hope everyone has a great day.
 
God bless.  Alice.

crazykitty
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   Posted 8/14/2010 10:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Definately agree with comfort. I wear what feels good. Angela, I'm glad you found
something comfy...if you don't feel good in it, you aren't going to wear it.

Yesterday, I went shopping with my friends. We were trying on dresses. I tried on a
couple that were really cute on. My friends said you have to get them. I agreed that
they looked good but boy...they were so uncomfortable... no way could I even think
of buying them. My friends teased me about being so picky. We then went to the
jewelry department and they tried on bracelets that looked like 2lb weights. I tried
one on and it felt like a torture device. I gave up wearing high heels long ago and
everything that doesn't feel good. I made one comfy purchase, a pair of sketcher
sandals...so comfy, like walking on clouds.

Have a wonderful time in vegas!
Hugs,Robin
Fibromyalgia, MCTD (Lupus, Scleroderma & RA) Raynaud's, Osteoporosis,
Osteoarthritis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Migraines, and Hypertension
Prescription Meds: Savella, Cyclobenzaprine, Methotrexate, Diltiazem, Boniva,
Folic Acid.  OTC Meds: Multi-vitamin. Vit, D, Vitamin B12 & calciim supplements
 
 

Witchesblew
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   Posted 8/14/2010 11:09 AM (GMT -7)   
It is so funny how fibro adjusts our thinking!I really love my jeans and tees, but needed some more dressy clothing, and i always fall back on black but they didnt have black capris so ended up with blue and khaki, ugghh i am sure i saqw celluoite on y hammies! Oh well what the heck..
Angela

Fibromyalgia, Hysterectomy, CFS, Positive ANA test (unknown what autoimmune disease it is), Severe Carpal Tunnel,PCOS,Hip replacement
meds: Benicar, effexor, percoset, zofran, amitryptaline, premarin, multivitamins, valium

TheChickenPrincess
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   Posted 8/14/2010 11:40 AM (GMT -7)   
This is such a good topic. I would like to write something about each of your stories, but if I did that I'd write a novel length post and I'm sure I type too much here anyway! LOL

Good for you, Angela! Hope you love your trip. All manufacturers use their own versions of sizes anyway. So if one day you take a larger size, remember, it could just be variance between manufacturers - or even between two sewers at the same manufacturer! Really, it is true. It varies wildly. In fact, if anyone wants to feel a little better - I find that LL Bean's clothing is bigger than the number they assign to it.

Austen - I love Everybody Loves Raymond and never get sick of the reruns. Marie is a scream but also her character dressed nicely - and I think someone could do worse than to emulate her wardrobe!

Last year, someone recommended a sewing book for me which I found at the library - wish I could remember which it was - but it explained how to dress nicely for whatever your body size, flaws, attributes etc! It was pretty danged cool. I think comfy can look cute if it flatters your attributes. I've never been very fashionable so this was an eye opener to me. A nice gentleman who sews helped me understand that if I can sew (or buy!) tops where the shoulder seams sit where they should, I go a long way to avoiding looking dowdy. I tended to buy larger shirts to fit my bust, but they fell off my shoulders, making me look frumpy. For me, a princess seamed blouse is my best friend. I'm hoping to sew some for the first time once I'm feeling better. But the point is - if we can watch little things, comfy stuff can look very cute. I'm a novice about this yet - but I'm learning.

Great topic!
Why my username? It is real life nickname. I love chickens. Will have my flock of hens one day! :D .............. DX'd with Fibromyalgia, chronic hives, sensitivities and allergies, migraines with auras, tmj, and IBS. Not sure what else!

Acheybody
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   Posted 8/14/2010 2:20 PM (GMT -7)   
And wearing colors that "go" with us helps a lot, too.  I look like a ghost in white & black & most blue-based colors.  As a redhead, I grew up wearing colors that "didn't clash with my hair."  Now I go right to the orange-reds, yellows, lime greens, and all the bright ones that make my skin come to life.
 
Debbie 
...fibromyalgia, hearing loss, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting (back), arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraines, tachycardia, cancer surgeries (face).......I take Nortriptyline & Clonopin daily, and Darvocet as needed

TheChickenPrincess
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   Posted 8/14/2010 2:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Debbie, I knew I liked you. :D I'm a redhead, too. Chestnut-red, but definitely a redhead and super fair.

Good point about colors!
Why my username? It is real life nickname. I love chickens. Will have my flock of hens one day! :D .............. DX'd with Fibromyalgia, chronic hives, sensitivities and allergies, migraines with auras, tmj, and IBS. Not sure what else!

Acheybody
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   Posted 8/14/2010 4:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Princess,
 
All right!  I knew I liked you, too!  We seem to be a dying breed.
 
Debbie
...fibromyalgia, hearing loss, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting (back), arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraines, tachycardia, cancer surgeries (face).......I take Nortriptyline & Clonopin daily, and Darvocet as needed

onedayoneday
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   Posted 8/14/2010 9:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi All,
I am new to this forum and i have been struggling with this topic for a long time. I gave up wearing nice looking shoes a long time ago it is either crocs or sneakers and sometimes i find that frustrating. I try hard to maintain my weight but i can eat not much at all and still am not able to lose weight ( has anyone notices this problem).. It felt good to read you thread i know these are things that i need to internalize because otherwise i feel like i am always banging my head against the wall . Thanks for being out there, it is a comfort to know I am not alone.
I have fibromyalgia, IBS, Vertigo and sooooooooooooo much pain, walking is such a challenge etc, etc, etc.
Nice to meet you all,
Survival Power

Statgeek
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   Posted 8/14/2010 10:36 PM (GMT -7)   
The what not to wear guy was on a ra website and suggested wearing comfy pants with a tunic for hard days.
Sue

SmurfyShadow
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   Posted 8/15/2010 12:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Torrid, is the place to shop. It gives us our sizes and fashion and comfort. Kid you not, depending on style, I'm a size 2 or 3. Thats an 18 or 22 in regular terms. I love the feel of being so small haha.
They have a website too:

www torrid dot com


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sotiredoffibro
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   Posted 8/15/2010 6:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Desiree and welcome back, I have missed you.
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kathydownunder
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   Posted 8/15/2010 7:37 PM (GMT -7)   
My DD lives in black it is her favorite color, now for me i like red, purple and all the shades of those two colors.
Idye my hair red because it will take no other color dye.
A with clothing sizes on the weekend I wore a skirt that was three sizes smaller then what i normally buy now. As a dress maker [my own] I can tell you that even the pattens are differnt sizes. What hope do we have buying normal clothes.

KATHY
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