is this all my life has to offer

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onedayoneday
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   Posted 8/18/2010 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi All,
I am in need of some support, I was lying down yesterday ( because getting up was to hard and to dizzy) and as a religious person wondering why this is the life g-d planned for me., why does my life have to always involve so much pain. I know other people have it worse or are terminal and then i feel like i don't have the right to ask that question since well my disease only makes my life unbearable but I don't know . Can anyone help me make sense of this?
OneDay

sotiredoffibro
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   Posted 8/18/2010 7:21 AM (GMT -7)   
I dont know if this is going to make much sense to you oneday, but I feel that those of us that suffer so much down here are going to be the ones that appreciate our home in the sky so much more. I also think that each of us as humans are going to go through some trials there is no way of escaping that. And yes there have been days where I have wondered if my life is only going to be continuous pain lord just let me go to sleep and not wake up.
I also believe that there is a purpose in everything we go through in life. I know that it gives me a better understanding of what others are dealing with and the compassion to treat people in ways I would want to be treated. I hope some of this makes sense to you. I will be praying that you feel better soon.
Gentle Hugs
Shirley
DX: Fibro, Gerds, COPD, Osteoarthritis, Osteoporosis, High Blood Pressure, and Depression.
When I get where Im going dont cry for me down here. (Brad Paisley & Dolly Parton)

Acheybody
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   Posted 8/18/2010 8:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Oneday,

I do know how you feel, and I wish I had an answer. When that happens to me, I just try to b-r-e-a-t-h-e evenly and trust that things will get better eventually. And so far, they always have.

Debbie
...fibromyalgia, hearing loss, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting (back), arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraines, tachycardia, cancer surgeries (face).......I take Nortriptyline & Clonopin daily, and Darvocet as needed

onedayoneday
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   Posted 8/18/2010 8:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Shirley,
It makes a lot of sense to me and i also feel that for the all the pain i suffer i am a better person, more understanding of other people's pain, more empathetic. Last year i studied to become a CranioSacral Therapist and i know that the fibro has given me more insight. But sometimes the question why me just screams out. What did i do that was so wrong to deserve this?
OneDay

Sherrine
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   Posted 8/18/2010 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   
I think we all have wondered "Why me?" but I have to trust God.  I know, by having all my health issues, I have more understanding and I feel I'm a more compassionate person than if I had no problems at all.  I've been blessed to be able to see good in even the bad things.  That does help a lot.  I also have been able to help others, and so have the rest of you on this forum...even people that haven't become members. 
 
Taking one day at a time works for me.  Also, I know scripture says this life is just a "blink of an eye" compared to what is ahead for me.  That makes me very happy.
 
I hope you start feeling a little better.
 
Sherrine
Forum Moderator/Fibromyalgia
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God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7

AustenFan
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   Posted 8/18/2010 8:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow, that is a tough question Oneday, and a question I'm sure many of us have struggled with. I don't think there is a simple answer; there is a whole theological debate on the subject that has been going on since the beginning of time.

I tend to agree with Sherrine. I believe that only those who have known suffering can truly show empathy and compassion to others. I don't know that that answers the "why," but it does help me understand that our suffering is not in vain.

Are you familiar with Joni Eareckson Tada (Google her name or "Joni and Friends")? She is someone who has taken enormous suffering and turned it into a purposeful compassionate outreach to others. Even if your theological beliefs are different from hers (she is Evangelical Christian), you may find her life story and works uplifting.

One thing I do know: Our suffering is not a "punishment," we are not alone or abandoned, and our lives have meaning and purpose. If the only thing you are able to do today through your suffering is say a kind word to someone, I believe you have accomplished much.

Big, soft, Hugs - Austen

crazykitty
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   Posted 8/18/2010 10:11 AM (GMT -7)   

There have been many times I asked why me , what is my purpose in life?

What is my purpose, my purpose in life

Was I destined to be a mother and wife

What I have learned, I have been blind to see

My purpose in life is just to be me

to live each day with a purpose in mind

to be loving, giving, caring and kind

whether I'm feeling  bad or feeling fine

I can only live life, one day at a time

Hugs, Robin


sotiredoffibro
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   Posted 8/18/2010 10:16 AM (GMT -7)   
wow Robin you hit the nail on the head with this poem, I love it.
Gentle Hugs
Shirley
DX: Fibro, Gerds, COPD, Osteoarthritis, Osteoporosis, High Blood Pressure, and Depression.
When I get where Im going dont cry for me down here. (Brad Paisley & Dolly Parton)

TheChickenPrincess
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   Posted 8/18/2010 10:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Robin, that's fantastic. *hugs*

Oneday, I'm really sorry you're going through this. There are many different faiths - and often I will read about what they all say about the meaning of life. I know one thing for sure, life isn't about the pain itself. It is really hard on those very bad days to remember that - but there will come a better day again. This isn't the last page of the book. Try to hold on through the tough times. Visualize the better days. Do whatever you need to do in order to distract yourself through this bad time. Pain and disease are not who you are. They're just something you have to work around, or get through. You are more than this.
Why my username? It is real life nickname. I love chickens. Will have my flock of hens one day! :D .............. DX'd with Fibromyalgia, chronic hives, sensitivities and allergies, migraines with auras, tmj, and IBS. Not sure what else!

KellieJo
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   Posted 8/18/2010 11:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Robin ((hugs))

Oneday....I tell myself that God must count be worthy to be going through pain. In my weakness my strength will come from him.

The old and new testament, is full of examples of God's people suffering.

Ok this post may not help you but it does help me to be reminded.
'Brokenness means we are ready for change. Lord, come take my pieces and make me what you want.' Mark Brown

Jeannie143
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   Posted 8/18/2010 11:26 AM (GMT -7)   
I've lived with this disorder for my entire life of 58 years and in the last 10 with my added arthritis and degenerative joint disease in my spine it's been a trial... but amazingly enough, when my daughter was paralyzed with the birth of my granddaughter I was ok. Seems like if I have something that I have to do for others my pain suddenly becomes manageable. When I get down and sore all I need is for someone to ask for help and I can do it!

So I guess all I can say is, just try to KOKO. (Keep on keepin' on!) The more you try to do the longer you will be able to do. When I do less and less I can only manage less and less.
~ Jeannie
Moderator for Fibromyalgia and Diabetes

Into each life a little rain must fall... followed by large hail and damaging winds!
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