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ouchie22878
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   Posted 8/22/2010 8:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Im new to this forum and new to talking about fibromyalgia.  If anyone asks I just give them the basics.  My husband has been amazing in understanding my condition.  However, for the past 6 months he has been out of work with a back injury.  He is not to lift anything over 10 lbs.  To be a good wife I have taken up bringing the grocerys in, taking the trash out, and anything else that requires lifting.  I don't know how im able to do it, but I get by.  Now Im in a flare, and im thinking about how im going to drag in the next batch of grocerys. Fun times. shocked

just_grace
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   Posted 8/22/2010 8:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ouchie.  I'm sorry to hear both you AND your husband are having difficulty. 
 
I understand how that could make things even more difficult.  Just try to remember to pace yourself, things that can wait until you feel better will still be there for you to complete when you both feel better.  Do what needs attention in the now and don't worry about the rest.

ouchie22878
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   Posted 8/22/2010 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Just. On the bright side I know how he feels when the Doctors start telling him there is nothing wrong with him. He also has a better understanding of pain, and the many ways it makes it into your life. However, I would not wish this on anyone.

Sherrine
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   Posted 8/22/2010 9:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Why don't you get one of those "old lady" carts!  I bought one when I was in my 20's.  It's the cart on wheels that you can put your groceries in and roll them in the house.  Here are a couple of links to show you what I mean.
 
 
 
My husband made so much fun of me when I bought mine (at Sears).  I used it to get all the beach stuff down to the beach with three small children.  Well, I'm still using it!  I haul garden statues into the garage with this and I haul plants out to the gardens, etc.  You can find a million uses for it.  It can even be used to pick things up in the house and wheel it down to the bedrooms.  I LOVE mine and have used it for 40 years.
 
I hope your hubby's back is better.  I suffered with a bad back until I learned how to get in and out of bed properly and in and out of a car properly.  This is what I did.  Maybe it will help your husband feel better.
 
First of all, I do not sleep flat on my back because it makes my back hurt more.  I don't sleep on my stomach either.  I sleep on my sides with a pillow wedged behind my back.  This way, I can partially be on my back but have support.  That helps me.  I also get out of bed using a cane.  I roll on my side, draw my legs up in a sitting position so the legs are actually hanging over the floor, and then I push off with the cane.  Gravity will bring your legs down and you will be pulled to a sitting position without using your back muscles.
 
When getting in and out of a car, sit on the seat with your feet on the pavement.  Then, either using the seat or the steering wheel, swivel your feet into the car while keeping your back straight.  I buy cars with leather seats because they are slippery.  But, when I rent a car and get cloth seats I had to come up with another idea...and I did!  I get a garbage bag and a towel.  I lay the garbage bag on the seat and the towel over it.  Then I do the above.  The garbage bag and towel let  your rear end swivel like you were on a lazy susan!  LOL  Just reverse the above to get out of the car.
 
Don't use your back muscles when you are lifting things up.  Use your legs instead.  By doing the above things, my back rarely hurts me now.  I hope these suggestions will help him!
 
Sherrine

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ouchie22878
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   Posted 8/22/2010 9:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for the cart idea. It is on the I want/need list. Also on the list is hunting socks the ones with the batteries cause my feet and legs are the first to scream at me in the mornings. Hubby has been informed as well. ^^

louise47
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   Posted 8/22/2010 3:31 PM (GMT -7)   
 I know how ya feel. In my case hubby dealt with pain first. he is a dissabled vet so I have taken care of him for years! He is not supposed to lift over 10 lbs either but he does. We just do what we can and hope one of us is having a better day. If not then we just sit together. Misery loves company. He is wonderfull! with me and my problems though. I hope you guys do well like we do together. Do you have kids that can help? My son stops by on his way home from work almost daily and helps out some.
Cymbalta,tramadol,tylonol 4, nexium,verapamil,325 mils of asprin,multi vit,duloxetine hcl,vit D,vit b-6, and simvastatin

High blood pressure,high cholesterol, Carpel tunnel synd,acid reflux,insomnia,fibromialgia, High ANA possibliy Lupus ( no diagnoses) Vitamin D defficient, arthritis in most of my joints.

Sherrine
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   Posted 8/22/2010 3:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Louise, I just looked at the meds you are taking.  You take simvastatin and so do I.  I started getting more pain and simvastatin can do that.  It can deplete your body of it's natural coQ10 and that can cause more pain.  My doctor had me stop taking the simvastatin for one month and take 100 mg of coQ10 twice a day.  After the month was up he had me start the statin drug again and I'm much better.  I still am taking the coQ10 and don't plan on stopping it.
 
If you are having more pain, you might want to ask your doctor about this.  CoQ10 is naturally in your body but statin meds can deplete it.  Just a thought.... 
 
Sherrine
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TheChickenPrincess
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   Posted 8/22/2010 4:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome to the forum, Ouchie. I'm sorry that you and your hubby are both enduring pain. It's so good you have each other though. Sounds like you're a great couple in trying to care for each other.

Until you can get a cart - please try to take very small loads in from the car. It can make the difference. You might have to repack each bag as you carry it. Definitely try to hold the groceries close to your chest, sort of like holding a child - it keeps your center of gravity better aligned and doesn't put as much strain on your back. Those plastic bags can be a little tough to deal with - fabric totes can be easier. Also - the fabric totes with good handles allow you to sling them over your shoulder - not ideal, but better for your back than letting them hang from your hands.

I hope you'll both be feeling stronger soon. You're in a good place for encouragement!
Why my username? It is real life nickname. I love chickens. Will have my flock of hens one day! :D .............. DX'd with Fibromyalgia, chronic hives, sensitivities and allergies, migraines with auras, tmj, and IBS. Not sure what else!

upbeat
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   Posted 8/22/2010 4:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi ouchie, welcome to the forum. I am in a very similiar situation with my husband. He had his second back surgery a year ago and has been left with chronic pain. I am not good about pacing myself and I try to do everything that needs to be done - and then pay for it! :-)
 
You said the doctors tell him nothing is wrong? Has he had an MRI of his back?
 
I am so glad your husband is understanding and supportive! I hope he improves soon.
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SillyMe2
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   Posted 8/22/2010 5:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Oooh do I agree with the Simvastatin statement. That did a number on me with internal heat and I think it caused me to get a irregular sinus rythm.. My medication is working really well for me.

What are they doing for your husband other then not lifting anything?
DX: Fibro, PA (Psoriatic Arthritis), Psoriasis, Rosacea.
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sotiredoffibro
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   Posted 8/23/2010 6:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi ouchie, just wanted to add my welcome to our fibro family. I am sorry that both you and your husband are suffering. I will be praying that things start feeling better for both of you.
Gentle Hugs
Shirley
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ouchie22878
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   Posted 8/24/2010 12:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Sorry for the late reply. I have been fighting a migrane. Hubby has enjoyed 2 mri's one open one closed. His work isnt paying him anything so we have a lawyer. Luckly we should get a little bit of money this week. He has done physical therapy and still stretches every morning. He is on loratab and soma. This has been going on for 6 months and there has been no changes. It has been a big mess we laugh about. We spend alot of our time in bed with our dauchound Luke. We play with him and he seems to know that we need extra tlc. We do not have any children. We dont want any either. Children are precious but i like them best when i dont have to clean up their messes. I have alot of respect for parents expecialy you guys. <3
Dx 1999

Sherrine
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   Posted 8/24/2010 8:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Ouchie, you are most likely hurting more because you are spending a lot of time in bed.  That isn't good for fibro and will make you stiffer and in more pain.  Also you will be more lethargic.  You need to keep moving with this illness.  Gentle things like walking and swimming are great.  I think you would feel a whole lot better if you did this.  When the weather is lousy, I have a walking in place video that I use that keeps me moving.
 
Sherrine
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sobermommy
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   Posted 8/24/2010 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry to hear about you and your hubby both being in pain. I can relate for sure. My hubby hurt his back many years ago and the dr kept saying nothing was wrong. They finally did a Myelogram and that showed where the dics was bulging and pushing on the nerve. They did surgery and it helped for a while but he still has low back and leg pain to this day. It makes it hard that my pain has gotten so bad. I feel awful that he has to work and carry the load that I can't. I don't know how he does it...he is so strong and works through so much pain. It make me feel like even more of a wimp some days b'cuz why can't I suck it up and work through my pain like he does? He is so understanding though...I wish I could learn to be as patient with myself and he is. I hope they are able to help your hubby...and you to get feeling better. Hurting is miserable.
Trying to keep my focus...

Fibro, deg/bulg discs in neck, rotator cuff tear, exteme nerve pain in hands after carpal tunnel on both, multiple foot surgeries with pain still, IBS, tension headaches, (Lap band)

Savella, MS contin, Vicoden, claritin, prilosec, flonase, vitamins, calcium
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