Thanks for your quick response, Shelly! No, he's just exhausted.....the dr. called me back and INSISTED I bring him in today, which I will. He is just SO lethargic, and this distaste for food is something new, although he hasn't had much of an appetite lately. This concerns me as I remember my dad being this way before he succumbed to lung cancer.
I will keep you posted on what the dr. says!
Oh, Pink grandma....what a PLEASANT surprise! That is SO very kind of you for caring to write me first...I have been so busy lately. Things aren't looking too well....were your ears buzzing?
Hubby was told by his doc that his MELD looked good, so what does he do? He goes on a binge! A 3-day binge so far...I am beside myself : ( He gets his license back in two weeks) and I told him if he is going to drink and drive again I'lll call the police in a split second and have him arrested again. So he cried and said he can't help but to drink. I told him if he has to drink then to DRINK AT HOME, and if I had to, I would pick up the liquor for him. I just can't bear the thought of him getting another DUI, or worse, hurting or killing someone. He just doesn't get the picture......I would rather him die here in bed then out on the road. I know that sounds cruel, but reality is reality.
Everybody is in financial trouble. God knows we can't keep living on my $700.00 a month, but I'll be darnED if I'll let him drive intoxicated and hurt an innocent person. He is not ready for work; he is not willing to be rehabilitated. God help me....
Angiesmommy-I know exactly where you are. I feel so bad for you. I never had liquor of any kind in the house. I finally came to the conclusion if I had liquor in the house he would drink at home and not drive. He was always lucky to not get a DUI also not killing someone or himself. Let you husband read back to my old posts. My husband was diagnosed with cirhossis last April and this whole year has been total HELL. The minute they mentioned cirhossis he never took another drink. Thank God. Sounds like your husband is either really scared or doesn't believe he is in for it. I will pray for you. Your journey isn't going to be easy but this Forum is wonderful so hang in there everyone here will be praying.
Thank you, Joann, for your support and understanding. I, to am exhausted; I cannot and will not continue fighting this battle alone. He was initially diagnosed with cirrhosis, but then when he was being a "good boy" his MELD scores dropped dramatically...so what does he do?? Goes back to binging! I am 53 years old; I have 3 young grandchildren that I want to watch grow up, go to college, get married and have children of their own. That in itself is a reason to go on living for me. Hubby? I don't know what he thinks. All I know is that he IS afraid of the bottle. He did not choose the alcohol. it chose him. He KNOWS to call his AA sponsor when the urge to drink hits him. He has NEVER called his sponsor, nor anybody else.
And for FDR, I'm sure he was a wonderful president and a great American. But he truly screwed up when he had Prohibition lifted. Why, he's probably rolling in his grave as I write this. The world would function just fine if liquor were never legalized. Sure, you'd have your moonshine and hidden stills. But, unlike heroin and meth or cocaine, alcohol isn't a drug that one becomes addicted to immediately. it was over many "social" drinks and wedding celebrations, birthdays, anniversaries, New Year's Eves before alcohol took over my hubby's life. Would Betty Ford have turned to heroin for an escape? I think not. Same with Dick Van ****, Kelsey Grammar;or my grandfather. All very respectd people with great carreers who started out drinking "socially". It's pretty much like tobacco; you don't like it the first time, but after a few years it becomes a way of life, an act of social acceptance. Excuse me for rambling on, but this subject has scarred me deeply.
"All I know is that he IS afraid of the bottle."
Apparently NOT afraid enough to call his sponsor. He doesn't call because he doesn't want to stop drinking. As an alcoholic who's been sober for 21 1/2 yrs., I know what I'm talking about. If he made that call, his sponsor would most likely take him to a detox.
Anyway, welcome to the forum, and I hope you will find the info and support here that you need.