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angiesmommy
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   Posted 3/17/2008 11:26 AM (GMT 0)   
 Hubby has not eaten in three days. Sips a little soda or water...that's all. Last night I was making Beef Stroganoff (which he loves) and he asked me to turn off the stove as the smell was making him nausious. He's supposed to see the dr. this afternoon, but I can't get him out of bed. This latest distaste for food has me concerned. Any comments? confused

1Shelly1
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   Posted 3/17/2008 12:30 PM (GMT -7)   
angiesmommy, hi-what did you mean that you can't get him out of bed? Is it because he is too weak or he doen't want to? If it's because he is too weak I would consider calling 911 for transport to the hospital. He is probably severly dehydrated at this point and needs medical attention like IV fluids etc. Let us know what's happening OK?
Shelly

angiesmommy
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   Posted 3/17/2008 1:26 PM (GMT -7)   

 Thanks for your quick response, Shelly! No, he's just exhausted.....the dr. called me back and INSISTED I bring him in today, which I will. He is just SO lethargic, and this distaste for food is something new, although he hasn't had much of an appetite lately. This concerns me as I remember my dad being this way before he succumbed to lung cancer.

 I will keep you posted on what the dr. says!


Pink Grandma
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   Posted 3/25/2008 7:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Angiesmommy, How are things going? Hope everything is okay. Post if you can...........thoughts and prayers.....
Pink Grandma
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angiesmommy
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   Posted 3/25/2008 7:53 PM (GMT -7)   

 Oh, Pink grandma....what a PLEASANT surprise! That is SO very kind of you for caring to write me first...I have been so busy lately. Things aren't looking too well....were your ears buzzing?

 Hubby was told by his doc that his MELD looked good, so what does he do? He goes on a binge! A 3-day binge so far...I am beside myself : ( He gets his license back in two weeks) and I told him if he is going to drink and drive again I'lll call the police in a split second and have him arrested again. So he cried and said he can't help but to drink. I told him if he has to drink then to DRINK AT HOME, and if I had to, I would pick up the liquor for him. I just can't bear the thought of him getting another DUI, or worse, hurting or killing someone. He just doesn't get the picture......I would rather him die here in bed then out on the road. I know that sounds cruel, but reality is reality.

 Everybody is in financial trouble. God knows we can't keep living on my $700.00 a month, but I'll be darnED if I'll let him drive intoxicated and hurt an innocent person. He is not ready for work; he is not willing to be rehabilitated. God help me....


Pink Grandma
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   Posted 3/25/2008 8:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Angiesmommy, I am sorry that your husband is on a binge. I know how frustating that is. Been there done that.
Maybe if he read some of these posts he could refrain from alcohol. Or can you print up any for him?
But at least you're keeping him off the road.

Special thoughts and prayesr for you and your husband tonight.
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angiesmommy
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   Posted 3/25/2008 8:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, BLESS YOU! I thought I would get scolded for even suggesting that I buy his liquor. I KNOW it's not the right thing to do, but if I don't then he will drive down to the store (still doesn't have his license) and I have to work and keep things going. I will keep you posted, PinkGrandma and all! Any input, positive or negative, would be much appreciated!

exhaused
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   Posted 3/25/2008 8:49 PM (GMT -7)   

Angiesmommy-I know exactly where you are.  I feel so bad for you.  I never had liquor of any kind in the house.  I finally came to the conclusion if I had liquor in the house he would drink at home and not drive.  He was always lucky to not get a DUI  also not killing someone or himself.  Let you husband read back to my old posts.  My husband was diagnosed with cirhossis last April and this whole year has been total HELL.  The minute they mentioned cirhossis he never took another drink.  Thank God.  Sounds like your husband is either really scared or doesn't believe he is in for it.  I will pray for you. Your journey isn't going to be easy but this Forum is wonderful so hang in there everyone here will be praying.

Joann


angiesmommy
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   Posted 3/25/2008 10:02 PM (GMT -7)   

 Thank you, Joann, for your support and understanding. I, to am exhausted; I cannot and will not continue fighting this battle alone. He was initially diagnosed with cirrhosis, but then when he was being a "good boy" his MELD scores dropped dramatically...so what does he do?? Goes back to binging! I am 53 years old; I have 3 young grandchildren that I want to watch grow up, go to college, get married and have children of their own. That in itself is a reason to go on living for me. Hubby? I don't know what he thinks. All I know is that he IS afraid of the bottle. He did not choose the alcohol. it chose him. He KNOWS to call his AA sponsor when the urge to drink hits him. He has NEVER called his sponsor, nor anybody else.

 And for FDR, I'm sure he was a wonderful president and a great American. But he truly screwed up when he had Prohibition lifted. Why, he's probably rolling in his grave as I write this. The world would function just fine if liquor were never legalized. Sure, you'd have your moonshine and hidden stills. But, unlike heroin and meth or cocaine, alcohol isn't a drug that one becomes addicted to immediately. it was over many "social" drinks and wedding celebrations, birthdays, anniversaries, New Year's Eves before alcohol took over my hubby's life. Would Betty Ford have turned to heroin for an escape? I think not. Same with Dick Van ****, Kelsey Grammar;or my grandfather. All very respectd people with great carreers who started out drinking "socially".  It's pretty much like tobacco; you don't like it the first time, but after a few years it becomes a way of life, an act of social acceptance. Excuse me for rambling on, but this subject has scarred me deeply.


hep93
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   Posted 3/25/2008 10:37 PM (GMT -7)   

"All I know is that he IS afraid of the bottle."

Apparently NOT afraid enough to call his sponsor.  He doesn't call because he doesn't want to stop drinking.  As an alcoholic who's been sober for 21 1/2 yrs., I know what I'm talking about.  If he made that call, his sponsor would most likely take him to a detox.

Anyway, welcome to the forum, and I hope you will find the info and support here that you need.

God bless,

Connie 


angiesmommy
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   Posted 3/25/2008 10:49 PM (GMT -7)   
 I have a feeling he's going to end up like Dan's brother. He has been in detox twice in the last 3 years, an alcoholic ever since I met him in '84 ( I'm sure he already had the disease) and drinks at LEAST a pint of 80 proof vodka a day (in one big gulp). No sipping or mixing drinks for my husband; downs the whole darned bottle in 20 seconds! I almost threw up the first time I saw him do that.

1Shelly1
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   Posted 3/26/2008 8:46 AM (GMT -7)   
angiesmommy, I am so sorry that your hubby is drinking again. You are probably really frustrated right now. The whole issue seems to be that he simply doesn't want to stop drinking. With some people the urge to drink is almost stronger than the will to live. My most favorite uncle was an alcoholic and even after he had ruptured esophogeal varices with banding (twice) he continued to drink. He was living with my grandmother by then and she also just  bought his liquor rather than having him drive or walk to the store to buy it. She was horrified that he would hit another car or a pedestrian and injue or kill them. She determined that if he wanted to die from his alcohol abuse at least he wouldn't kill an innocent person in the process. I think it is a totally individual decision on the part of the patient and their family. No one can tell you what to do as only you can decide what is right for your husband and family. I for one will support whatever decision you make as there is no right or wrong in all this. Keep us posted.
 
 Shelly
 
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angiesmommy
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   Posted 3/26/2008 9:27 AM (GMT -7)   
 Shelly, thank you for your understanding and compassion. And, Dan, I too have witnessed my husband turn from a 50 year old man into an 80 year old man. The man I married used to go to ball games with me. He would take me to the fair and we would ride the ferris wheel together holding hands. We would go on long trips to the coast together for our anniversary. The last ballgame we went to he ended up in ER BEFORE the game even started due to alcohol poisoning. The last trip we took to the coast I had the paramedics in our hotel room because of his varices hemmoraging. I had him pass out on me on Interstate 80 and I DROVE us to safety from the passenger seat with the car in cruise control at 75 MPH. (God had a big part in that one). I have filed for divorce then changed my mind because neither one of us would benefit from it, and I DO love him still! I paid the attorney a $6,000 retainer and a week later when I changed my mind, I get a check back for $1500.
 I am tired of battling with him, and I believe he is tired of battling with it as well. He is dying and knows it. I will be with him until his last breath. But I WILL not stand by and watch him take somebody else down with him.
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