Dansbrother, I am sorry if you were offended by my advocating for the patients right to die as they wish. I know that your brothers suffering was very traumatic for you and for your family and I understand your strong feelings. But please try to understand the other side of the coin. You made the statement that there was nothing dignified about watching someone hallucinate and that it needed immediate medical attention. There are two issues here, first; dignity is what the patient needs-not us. You were understandibly upset at your brothers hallucinations (as I would have been if it had been my brother) but he was unaware that he was hallucunating so it was only bothersome to you-not him. Secondly, if a person chooses not to have medical intervention we can't and shouldn't impose it on them. It is their right to choose. As a family member it is a nightmare to watch I know as I went thru it with my mom just a few months ago. I guess I realized a long time ago that everyone has a right to die as they wish. That's where the dignity comes into it. Hospice is the place that many patients will pass away as they are heavily medicated if in pain and usually slip away after falling into coma. However; even then many people want to die at home where they are comfortable. The choice is theirs and their families decision. When my mom was so sick I found myself trying to impose my will as to what should or should not be done. When I realized what I was doing (going against what she wanted) I had to regroup and stop trying to force my will on her. I finally concluded that I simply didn't want to let her go. My telling her at the end that it was OK to go was the hardest thing I ever did in my life or my career.I hope this helps you understand why I have to remain so adament about being a patient advocate and following their wishes. In the end it isn't about us and how we feel but rather about them and how they feel.
When you fall - I'll get you up and help you walk,when you can't walk - I'll carry you, and when I can no longer carry you - I'll stay by your side for there is always hope.