“Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference."
Shelly I just don't know what to say. There is nothing that could possibly make you feel any better right now. How horrible for you and most of all your dad. No one should have to bury a child. You are in my prayers.
Shelly, I know what a shock this must be to you and your entire family. I am so sorry. My prayers are with you for the strength to get through this ordeal. However, I do wish you wouldn't feel that you have to take care of your whole family. Nurses tend to put themselves in that position and so do their family members. The important thing is to take care of yourself, and do what you can for your dad. The others may then find wells of inner strength that they didn't even know they had.
Hi, shelly--I am fairly new to the forum, and I have gotten alot out of your posts already. Please, I give you my energy and my love. I will pray that you and your family get through this %%^^^&* and let your love strengthen each other. You do not have to carry everyone.
Thank You All for your kind words and prayers. I feel much love and support by my friends in HealingWell. This has been far more traumatizing then I thought it would be for my family and myself. I guess I really want that old addage "This too shall pass" to be true. My father was brave thru it all and only needed assistance to walk once. We thought he was going to pass out for a few seconds but my younger brother and his son (both 6 ft 8in tall) grabbed him and got him back in his seat. He is a trooper tho and I think he will be as OK as a parent can be when they have to bury their child. They had a full military burial at Fort Custer Cemetary in Michigan. If a burial can be described as beautiful then this was it. My family requested bagpipes be played as we are of Scottish descent. The pipest played amazing grace while disappearing into the woods at the finale. It was just beautiful and symbolic at the same time. I recieved many personal emails from friends as well that has given me much comfort so along with all of your notes I am blessed. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.
PS: There were about 300 people at the funeral. That says alot about my brother and the impact that he had on his coworkers and friends. There were representatives from China, India, New Zealand, Austraila, and England there as well as the USA. I was amazed.