Whirlwind, welcome. It looks like you picked up an old post from May. I don't think we've heard from that poster lately.
I can say that I know what you are going through, as my mother was a raging alcoholic. I later became one, too, but thankfully sobered up after drinking alcoholically for over 20 yrs. I now have 22 years sober. And yes, I went to AA. I kind of tapered off my drinking as I was fightened when I started having blackouts. I also saw myself becoming my mother. By the time I got to AA, I was only drinking beer...but alcohol is alcohol, regardless of the form it's in. Prior to becoming alcoholic, I was addicted to hard drugs. It only went on for 18 months--'68-'69--but sharing needles left me with hep C, which caused liver cancer and cirrhosis. Thanks to treatment at Mayo, I am now cancer free.
Have you ever been to Al-Anon meetings? They are for people who are living with or close to alcoholics. You might find that helpful. If you have siblings or other relatives who are concerned, you could also try an intervention. However, you need guidance with that. You would need to contact a rehab facility or other place that could tell you how to go about that.
Alcoholics most always have to hit rock bottom before they are willing to get help. Nothing you can say will make a difference. Unfortunately, my mother never did sober up--not until late age when she had a "wet brain" and senility and was in a nursing home. I had cut off communication with her years before, as her behavior upset me too much and she had hurt me so badly all my life and continued to do so, even 1400 miles away.
I'm glad you have found us. Please do start a new thread, introducing yourself. Otherwise, you can easily get "lost."
Butterfly, how terribly traumatic that must have been for you!! My dad committed suicide by gunshot to the head when I was in my 20s. He and my mom had divorced when she was pregnant with me, and I had no contact with him until I was 21. We had talked on the phone a few times, and exchanged pictures and letters...but I still hadn't met him at the time he took his life. It was horribly traumatic and painful, and pushed me right over the edge into hard drugs to kill the pain. Of course, I still had to deal with the issue when I finally got clean.
Sue, that's a lot of family!! In AA, we are told that we can create new, extended families. It seems that's what you've done.