I am a new member here, so I am using this post to introduce myself. This is actually my second post, because I was so intent on getting a response that I replied to a very very old post...silly me. I did get responses though, so thank you....
Hmm... a little about
me: I am 28 and I live and work in NYC. I am a New Yorker by day, and a superhero by night....well not really to the superhero part, but I wish I could be.
I have a few health issues regarding my own body that really stress me out. I cant afford health insurance so it will continue to stress me out until I can afford it.
My main reason for being on this site is that I find it far more difficult to deal with my mothers health issue than my own. Here is my first post, it will give you a clear pic of why I am here:
"I hope this gets to you....
I am going through the same thing... My mom and dad are both alcoholics, and are in MAJOR denial. The problem is that no one knows it except me and my sisters. My mother now has liver cirrohsis and was in and out of the hospital many many times about
2 years ago. She controls her symptoms with lactulose and diuretics, which on one hand is a good thing, but it helps her keep up the dillusion that she is well, when really she is just covering her symptoms. She looks so different from the beautiful mom that I am used to seeing when i was growing up. I am 28 and I've recently within 6 months seen 5 of my uncles and aunts die from various reasons, breast cancer, liver cancer, natural causes, car accident, & murder. I am getting scared that we will lose my mom too, because I just feel now that anything can happen. I want to talk to her but I dont know what to say. The doctors told her in order for her to get on the transplant list that she needed to go to AA. She never went, she felt like she was too good for that, because to her, she is not an alcoholic. When we go out my dad buys her drinks, and when she is at home she drinks. I try to throw the alcohol down the sink, but my dad goes back out and buys it, and so does she. I dont know what to do, I dont want to be without a parent like my cousins. If my mom loses her life to alcohol, then I will live with the guilt that this was preventable. I want to do something, I want her to do something, I want my dad to do something. But I dont know how to talk to them without making them feel as if I am against them, because I am not. I want them to see their problem, and see how they are enabling each other, and how they are killing themselves and my sisters and me. This story is so complicated and so deep that I cant begin to tell you all of what we are suffering, I can only say that I know you know...
What did you say when you spoke to your mother? What did you use to help her realize she had a problem... tell me anything
I wrote this post in reply to a really old post so I think the person that I directed the question to, will never answer. But that is ok. I have gotten replys from others, and to those people I give you thanks, you make me feel as if I am not alone, even though sometime I could almost swear that I am,