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candlelight
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   Posted 8/31/2008 1:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone
Hope everyone is doing ok and hoping as much as possible being able to enjoy the holiday weekend. I just came in from outside sitting on a chair looking at the beautiful sky. I am alone today daughter and family went to bbq and my mean husband is at a clambake somewhere. He made sure he called to tell me that,not only that he has his girlfriend working at the resturaunt behind the bar. He promised me he would'nt ever have her work there because it would be totally disresectful to me! Well I guess we all know what he is saying to me and all our customers. My 1st lawyer appt is fri i want to see a few for consultations before I jump into anything. The last few days my balance has been way off and today I was bending down petting the dog and and when I started to straigten up over I toppled I just sat there and laughed and laughed. I think we all have those days when we think what more can go wrong Well thanks for listening to my whining Joann I will call u later and John what kind of music would you recomend for this mess
Take care everyone hugs & hope to you all
Joelene

hep93
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   Posted 8/31/2008 2:04 PM (GMT -7)   

{{{{{{{{{{{{Joelene}}}}}}}}}}  I would definitely be divorcing the SOB.  I don't think you need more than one consult, as the law is the law and they will all tell you the same thing.  One thing to remember is to ask for a QDRO (qualified domestic relations order.)  This is a separate document that must be signed and ordered by the judge at the time of the divorce.  It is specifically for part of your husband's pension, if he has one.  He does not have to currently be drawing it.  The amount is based on the years he worked in said business and the length of time you were married.  I seem to remember your saying that he, or you and he together, own several businesses.  In this case, don't forget any pension he may have gotten from the military, any IRA he has, etc.  I'm sure that profits from the business would also be divided, especially if you worked in those businesses, which I believe you said you did.  If I am confusing you with someone else, forgive me.

I'm alone today, but don't mind.  I slept very late and have time to read, surf the web, etc.

Hugs,

Connie


candlelight
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   Posted 8/31/2008 2:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Connie
Thanks for your support and i am glad you had a good day! How are you feeling?
Hugs& Hope joelene

Judith
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   Posted 8/31/2008 3:46 PM (GMT -7)   

Joelene, I am so sorry you are being treated that way shocked  . I am alone today too, my husband is here (asleep) as usual and most everyone I know is enjoying the holiday with there loved ones.  I hope you take him for everything you can gal,

 

Judith


bratnewton
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   Posted 8/31/2008 8:33 PM (GMT -7)   
remember we are all here for each other!!!!!

Karen in Nevada

hep93
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   Posted 8/31/2008 9:12 PM (GMT -7)   

Joelene, I'm feeling pretty well.  Thanks for asking.  I can tell I've put on some weight and I'm not thrilled about that.  I think a lot of it is from eating out of boredom, and also because it's been too darned hot to get out and walk much.

Right now, I'm keeping an eye on TS Hannah, while LA and MS are looking at Gustav.  We will probably get some of the outer rain bands from Gustav.  I pray those poor folks in N.O. won't get wiped out again.

Hugs,

Connie


JohnCT
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   Posted 8/31/2008 10:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Joelene,

Regarding music when depressed, it's been a tough day and I don't have any good thoughts. In general, for me I have differing strategies: the first is if I have a glimmer of hope and see that although I'm depressed in the moment, it will turn around - then I do something hard rock and dirty, early 70's Stones works for me; the second, which is tonight for me, is when I'm too tired to believe that there is an end to the tunnel -- tonight it will be old-school blues, just a guy on a stool, with a guitar and a sad story, keeping time with his heel, his dog keeping an extra half foot away, sensing his mood. Probably Robert Johnson for me.

I wish I had something positive to say -- other than that I hope you stay strong and feel better soon. Please know that I wish you the best.

Be well, John
I have to get up the creek! Now where's that paddle?
Mind-fogged again.


Butterflythree
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   Posted 9/1/2008 7:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Joelene, I'm sorry that you are feeling so down, but I'm very glad to hear that you are taking steps towards a divorce. It seems like he is trying to rub things in your face. I just don't understand how he can be so hurtful. I have always been told what goes around comes around. One day he will look back and see what a terrible person he was. I am not one to wish bad on anyone, but I have to tell you the way he is treating you makes me so angry.

I hope you are feeling better today.
Butterflythree
 
There is always hope!


La Bunna
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   Posted 9/1/2008 11:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Joelene,
I wish I were there with you and your dog and my dogs.  We could sit and talk and we would understand each other.
 
This post of yours just breaks my heart. 
 
You are so kind.  Your husband is so mean.
 
Life is not the bowl of cherries that the song said.  It is often (more often when you get older) a sad song. 
 
But, keep your self respect, girlfriend.  You have that ......no one can take that away. 
 
And keep your heart clean and clear.  Then you will be OK with yourself.
 
(My holiday, and in fact, my last year, has not been the bowl of cherries, either).  I can relate.
 
 
La Bunna

"Courage is the art of being the only one who knows you are scared to death"


Pink Grandma
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   Posted 9/1/2008 5:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Joelene put on your *** kicking boots and take him for every dime you can.

He deserves no mercy as he has shown you none. And God's gives back 10 fold. Bad or Good. So God will handle him..........wipe him off the bottom of your shoes and leave him your dust.

When I finally divorced my first husband after 20 years I walked away with nothing but his retirement, that would be mine after his death. He even tried to intimidate me in to signing it away......... You probably can guess what I told him.

Don't let him intimidate you or make you feel worthless. He is the worthless piece of dog doo......not you. Hold your head of high and be proud of your self.

When ever you feel down Joelene come here....we will pick you up and stand right beside you.

Thoughts and prayers............
Pink Grandma
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When the going gets tough....the tough get going! Don't always know where I going but I get there anyways.


candlelight
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   Posted 9/1/2008 7:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all so much- you do make me feel better like i have someone cares.Anything I can do for any of you please feel free to ask.  Labunna how is the heating pad working? Again thank you all for your support.  hugs & hope joelene

Butterflythree
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   Posted 9/1/2008 7:57 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Pink Grandma. She put it so well.
Butterflythree
 
There is always hope!


candlelight
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   Posted 9/1/2008 8:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Butterflythree
Thank yu joelene

frustrated_n_wv
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   Posted 9/2/2008 3:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Joelene

Just wanted to say I agree with all the above. We all do care and are so sorry that you are having to deal with such an uncaring, self absorbed, horses "bottom". I am so glad that you are seeking consultations to evaluate your options. Please keep us posted.

Lucy

La Bunna
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   Posted 9/2/2008 4:12 AM (GMT -7)   
heating pad HELPS!!!!
Thank you!
La Bunna

"Courage is the art of being the only one who knows you are scared to death"

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