Hi, Cajunred, and welcome to the forum! I am sooo sorry that your husband has a terminal illness. That has to be very hard on both of you. That doctor certainly didn't have much of a bedside manner! However, most people do want the prognosis given to them straight. Many docs just dance around it. Where was your husband seen and did he receive any treatment? Colon surgery?
I am happy to hear that you have called in Hospice. They are really wonderful at what they do, and will be a big support for you, too. They deal with this sort of thing day in and day out, so I'm sure they will have some wonderful suggestions for you.
I am a liver cancer survivor...16 months cancer free now. However, mine was a primary cancer, whereas your husband's is metastatic. My cancer was caused from hepatitis C, and it did metastasize to the inferior vena cava, rendering the tumor inoperable when I was first diagnosed. However, I got a new treatment at Mayo which shrunk the tumor and also the metastasized part back into the tumor. Then they were able to operate, and took the entire right lobe of the liver. I know that ordinarily they only use that study drug for metastatic liver cancer, so I was very fortunate to get it and even more so to have it work.
Each person is an individual case, so I don't know if anything could've been done for your husband or not, or if he did receive treatment. Also, I'm not a doctor or nurse.
From my own experience, I can tell you that I certainly appreciate each day more, even the not-so-good ones. So cherish each moment you have together.
You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers.