Welcome, ESLD_stinks. Sorry you are having to see your father so sick and declining. When he first started to get sick again, was a possible 2nd transplant mentioned? I'm sure he is not well enough for that now. After his transplant, did he receive treatment for hep C? It sounds as though the hep C has destroyed the "new" liver.
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ESLD, I agree that your father probably should have stayed in CA for the hep C treatment, but what's done is done. It sounds like he is getting excellent care now.
I can relate to you about the lousy father thing...and I didn't handle it well at all when mine died. E-mail me if you'd like to unload.
Oh, how sorry we all are for your painful situation with your father.
I came here recently myself, seeking support for a friend in ESLD, and what a warm and welcoming group I found here. You have found the true experts, as I did. Thank you board.
Prayers to you and your husband.