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   Posted 3/17/2009 12:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Everyone,
I have not posted here in a few months and have dearly missed the support from everyone. I am sitting here and I cant figure out if I am more angry that sad. My wonderful man passed this last friday, he waited so long and struggled to stay positive every day that he would get his transplant. Well he did on the 10th of this month but it was to to late his body couldnt do it. He had major complications and they couldnt even close him up because they had to keep going back in try to fix damage to his portal vein. Thankfully he never woke up and his last thoughts were "I made it"
Sue mad
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   Posted 3/17/2009 1:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Sue, I am so sorry for your loss. There are never the right words to say to anyone that is grieving so please accept my sincerest condolences.


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   Posted 3/17/2009 2:02 PM (GMT -6)   

Oh, {{{{{{{{Sue}}}}}}} !!!  What an awful situation.   cry    I am sooo sorry for your loss and also that the transplant came too late.  I can understand how you would feel both angry and sad.  Focus on his last words, though...that he thought he made it.

Shelly is right.  It's hard to know what to say.  Just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you, and please do continue to post whenever you feel up to it.



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   Posted 3/17/2009 6:06 PM (GMT -6)   

So sorry to hear about your loss. Like Connie said, atleast his last thoughts were that he made it.

I'm new to the board but felt like expressing my condolences

Thoughts and Prayers with you and your family,

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   Posted 3/17/2009 9:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Sue, I am so very sorry for your loss. YOu hang in there and know that we are all saying prayers for you.......


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   Posted 3/17/2009 11:29 PM (GMT -6)   
(((Sue))), I am so sorry. Please take care of your self. Now it's all about Sue. I know how hard you worked to get your husband a transplant. And how crushed you must be.......We are all here for you whenever you need us. My email is in profile if you ever need to talk.

Lot's and prayers for you and your family.....
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   Posted 3/18/2009 3:28 AM (GMT -6)   



I am so very sorry.  You have every right to be angry.  I’m angry too.  Doug shouldn’t have waited for 8 years on a transplant list for the help he so desperately needed.  I can only imagine your emotional devastation. 


I know how excited you felt when they wheeled him into the OR expecting to put his ELSD behind you.  To go from such a heightened sense of joy to complete disappointment must have thrown your body into shock.  You must be exhausted.  I hope you have someone with you to help you through this. 


Doug was excited as well.  The irony is that he truly ‘made it’.  He is in the hands of the ultimate caregiver, and free of his mortal bonds.  Cherish his memory until you meet again.  Focus on yourself and seek out the support you will need to get through the sorrow of missing him.  We’ll be here anytime you need to vent.  You need to take care of YOU now. 


In love and sympathy,



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   Posted 3/18/2009 5:15 AM (GMT -6)   

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Losing those that we care abuot can be so devasting. I too hope that you have a strong support system to help you in this time. May prayers continue to go out to you at this most difficult time.


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   Posted 3/19/2009 12:36 AM (GMT -6)   


I am so sorry for your loss.  My prayers are with you and your family.


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   Posted 3/20/2009 5:04 PM (GMT -6)   

I'll be praying for you to find peace with it. I think those who leave us behind are watching us everyday to see how we handle things down here. I'm sure he would want you to be at peace and have tranquility in your heart that you did all you could do. God loves you and so do we.


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   Posted 3/31/2009 10:36 PM (GMT -6)   


I have not been on for a while.  Jerry has been in the hospital and I did not have a lap top.  I am in shock.  I cryed tonight when I read your post.  Why do people have to go through so much pain.  I will think of you tonight.  Please try and keep in touch.  We that are still waiting can learn from your experience.  As soon as you are able to share it. 



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   Posted 4/1/2009 9:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Sue, I'm so sorry for all that you are going through. I have not been able to visit the forum alot lately, and I have gotten very behind. I am so sadden to hear this news. I can only imagine what you are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
There is always hope!

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   Posted 4/2/2009 4:36 AM (GMT -6)   
So sorry, Hope you find peace in knowing he is finally at rest. And Yes He Made It. I would give my own life if I could help anyone who shares this terrible disease. Prayer ; june
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