Good morning FinnstersMom.
I am the type of person that I want to know what I am up against. I am not the type to stick my head in the sand and pretend it's not there. On the other hand my husband didn't want to face it all. I had to get in his face a few times to get him to comply with the doctor's orders.
It's true that they may not know how serious it is............and it also maybe that they don't want to know how serious it is.........was it hard for you to accept? Sometimes it is just as hard for family to accept.
If your family is close......pick the one that you are closest to and explain everything. Or maybe have them all over for dinner or something and tell them together so that they all get the same information.
Only you know your family's dynamics.
I can only tell you my experience with my husband's family when I told them that he needed a transplant to survive. Now his family was not close at all.
His Estranged Daughter: Cried and came to visit and called frequently. (Lived about
700 miles away.)
All the rest lived in town. Here is what I got back.
Mother: He's not as sick as he is pretending. (I went to every appointment from day one.)
Brother: He brought it on him self. (What difference did that make?)
Sisters: 2 of them kind of ignored or pretended they were not told. 1 of them cried.
His mom and oldest sister would call occasionally and talk to him. I think that they were uncomfortable talking to him.........as they would talk to me a lot more. We didn't hear from the others very often at all concerning my husband's disease. My husband and I got more support from my family than his.
Sad but true.
Good luck with what ever you decide. Just remember everyone handles ugly stuff in their own way. It's not a right way or a wrong way ..........just their way.......
Thoughts and prayers..........
When the going gets tough....the tough get going! Don't always know where I going but I get there anyways.