Hello, MissVicki and welcome to the forum! I'm glad you decided to post. I am so glad that your husband stopped drinking and is on the transplant list. It is remarkable that he is working. Liver disease makes one sooo fatigued. So it could be that he is just sick and tired of being sick and tired. I think that's understandable. Is he taking any antidepressants? That might be something that would help. I hate to see him "give up" after having been through so much, and there is also the danger that he might drink again. Is he doing anything to assure that he doesn't? I'm sure his status on the list isn't very high with a MELD of only 12. Is he getting counseling through the transplant center where he is listed?
I'm sure you will get a lot of support here, as well as information. We do prefer that you post in black.
MissVicki, congratulations to both you and your husband on your sobriety. If you've read many of the posts on here, you probably know that I'm an alcoholic with nearly 23 years of sobriety, thanks to AA. It is the best thing that both of you can be doing for yourselves.
As to the insurance, your husband should apply for SSI and SSD. He could get Medicaid pretty quickly, based on income and assets. Medicare (which he can get on SSD) is a 2-year wait from the time he applies. He is actually hurting himself by working. If he is approved for SSI/Medicaid, he could also qualify for food stamps and other services. It is very, very difficult financially to go through the waiting after applying. They took 2 yrs. to make a decision on my case. Had it not been for help from my aunt during that time, I don't know what I would have done. As long as your husband is working and making what they consider a living wage, he will not be eligible for disability.
Regarding the blood types and transplant, I will leave that to others more knowledgeable than I to answer. Type O is known as the "universal donor," but there are other things involved in a match for transplant.
Hi, Exauhsted, and welcome to the forum. You have a screen name that is VERY similar to that of another member. To prevent confusion, would you please reregister under a different screen name and then post your situation as a New Topic. (Click on New Topic instead of Reply.)
Rick, you are a prize! It really doesn't seem so long ago that you were feeling "helpless and hopeless!" Now here you are, feeling much better and offering sage suggestions to others. I'm so proud of you, my friend! You are one of the lucky ones who heard the clarion call about alcohol and then got on board to get yourself healthier. I consider us "the chosen ones." Our Higher Power just has more for us to do here and is not yet ready for us to leave this earth. Either that or we're just plain stubborn!
Joanie, it's good to have you here. We have very few transplant recipients here. In fact, most seem to be spouses/caregivers. I also have hep C and cirrhosis and survived liver cancer 2 yrs. ago. I really feel for you about the incisional hernias! I had 2 of them following the rt. liver lobectomy for cancer and had a terrible time with a fluid pocket following the last one. It has held up, though, for a little over a year. It's in my midriff and I can feel the knots where the mesh was sewn in. It's very firm in that spot, too. I can't imagine having 10!! hernia repairs!
You picked up on an older post. If you want to, you can start a new topic to introduce yourself.
Again, we're glad you're here.