First off, I would like to say that I have never posted anything in a forum type setting, but came across this wonderful site while trying to find out some information/help for my best friend.
My best friend of 30 years, as we have known each other since birth was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver about
a year ago (from alcohol), she is now alcohol free.
Her family had her decided not to tell me until just recently because my husband is in the Army and we currently live in Europe and they knew that the expense of traveling back and forth from the US would be a lot.
She was admitted into the hospital for the second time in less then a year in the middle of March, and the doctors told them that it was a miracle she left the hospital the first time, and to start making plans for her to pass. That's when I got the call and I immediately boarded the next flight to the states. I spent two weeks by her side day and night, just being in her presence. Hoping that my energy would help her get better. The day after I left she was released from the hospital and sent home. Another miracle had happened.
Her mother has been taking care of her day/night since then and all things seem to be stabilizing and maybe even a little better. A couple of weeks ago she had blood and urine tests done and the doctor's told us that everything looked great. No infection were detected. Yesterday she went back in for a doctors appointment and the doctors admitted her back to the hospital because her blood pressure was to low and they feared that she might go into cardiac arrest. While there the ran some more tests and said that on a scale from 1-5 (1 being the best) here liver is a 5, and her kidneys are in failure as well. They told her mother that she could have 2 weeks to 2 months to live.
We want to get her a second opinion but every doctor that her mother has called said that they need a referral, but she doesn't trust the doctors as Kaiser Permanente, and wants to pay out of pocket for the second opinion. But no doctor in the Portland, Oregon area is willing to help. Is this normal?
I am needing some advice/guidance to assist my best friends mother in gaining the second opinion she is entitled to and that we desperately need.
If you can help with a doctor's name or a organization that will help us gain all the information that we seek please let me know.
Thank you in advance for all the help you can give us.