the trouble is my mum does not think she is that sick. i think she is in denial over that too. i cant even imagine bringing up the subject as when we try to talk to her about what she has been through she says she does not remember.the last two years have been awful constant in and out hospital. the thing is she was a clever woman who held down a good job with responsibilities, she must look at her body and think what is happening.
her partner refuses to get her alcohol, never has done he does not drink has not drtank for many years. most days she phones a taxi company sometimes they go for her other times she struggles out to the taxi and is back 5 min later. we have tried phoning taxi company, drivers ect all you get is abuse.her partner empties the drink and replaces with water.even the neighbours stop her when she goes out, sometimes she goes back in other times she tells them where to go.
i cant remember when i had a last time with her that was pleasant. so i feel i have to wait until the next time
hospitals will not put her anywhere, they say she has to make her own mind up to stop before they can do anything, and she wont.....
Allie, as far as the Living Will goes, everyone should have one and it's best to make one BEFORE becoming sick. Florida now requires anyone being admitted to the hospital to have a Living Will and to name a Medical Surrogate in case you are unable to make decisions yourself. The hospital your mom is in should have a social worker or patient's services counselor. Find out where one is located and stop by and let them know that your mom needs a Living Will. See if you can get one of them to visit her in her room and get it filled out. You can explain the situation. You really should be able to get some help with this.