she is like a cat with nine lives

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allie2631
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   Posted 7/5/2009 12:28 PM (GMT -7)   
after recently posting bout my mum, she is now back in hospital. friday night she drank through the night, she was found on the floor wedged up against her bedroom door, with congealed blood all over her face , her breathing was gurggled and she was fitting. ambulance phoned, she was seizuiring for 1 and a half hours. when i spoke to the doctors they frightened me saying they were not sure if she would regain consciousness and she was critical. they asked me if she had a living will which she didn't so they asked me what my wishes were if she went into cardiac arrest. i dont want her to suffer, her poartner went crazy saying i was giving up on her.i do not want to be the one who decides whether she lives or dies, to me it should be in gods hands. i went to see her today, she had woken up, she has had another bleed in her brain, her arms are purple with coagulation problems. but she was her usual nippy self, cheeky , sarcastic telling us she is fine. i think here we go again she will get patched up and put out again. ifeel totally drained, exhausted by it all, but i cannot face all the visits again, all the usual things that go with it all. she has no one but her partner and me.  the doctors cant believe how quick she bounces back. i dont know where to turn now.

hep93
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   Posted 7/5/2009 2:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Allie, I am so sorry.  While she is awake and cognizant, now would be the time to have her sign a Living Will so that decision will not fall on your shoulders.  The hospital should have them available.  You should be able to get one tomorrow from a hospital Registrar or Social Worker.  You can fill it out for her and just have her sign it.  It has to be witnessed by 2 people.  This way, should the time come, it will be HER decision and not yours or her partner's. 
 
Who is getting the booze for her?  I can't believe that she is strong enough to go get it herself.  If it's her partner doing it, let him know he is killing her.  Sure, she will get angry and have a fit if he refuses to get it, but he needs to be strong and resist.  Could she possibly be discharged to a nursing home or extended care center instead of to home?  You might mention this to her doctor and let him know that she needs to be where she cannot obtain alcohol.
 
Hugs,
Connie


hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland


allie2631
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   Posted 7/6/2009 12:28 AM (GMT -7)   

the trouble is my mum does not think she is that sick. i think she is in denial over that too. i cant even imagine bringing up the subject as when we try to talk to her about what she has been through she says she does not remember.the last two years have been awful constant in and out hospital. the thing is she was a clever woman who held down a good job with responsibilities, she must look at her body and think what is happening.

her partner refuses to get her alcohol, never has done he does not drink has not drtank for many years. most days she phones a taxi company sometimes they go for her other times she struggles out to the taxi and is back 5 min later. we have tried phoning taxi company, drivers ect all you get is abuse.her partner empties the drink and replaces with water.even the neighbours stop her when she goes out, sometimes she goes back in other times she tells them where to go.

i cant remember when i had a last time with her that was pleasant. so i feel i have to wait until the next time

hospitals will not put her anywhere, they say she has to make her own mind up to stop before they can do anything, and she wont.....

 


hep93
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   Posted 7/6/2009 3:09 PM (GMT -7)   

Allie, as far as the Living Will goes, everyone should have one and it's best to make one BEFORE becoming sick.  Florida now requires anyone being admitted to the hospital to have a Living Will and to name a Medical Surrogate in case you are unable to make decisions yourself.  The hospital your mom is in should have a social worker or patient's services counselor.  Find out where one is located and stop by and let them know that your mom needs a Living Will.  See if you can get one of them to visit her in her room and get it filled out.  You can explain the situation.  You really should be able to get some help with this.

Hugs,

Connie


hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

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