i am sorry to hear that you are going through a similar ordeal to me with my mum.
like your sister my mumrefuses any help, she has a partner who cares for her but still she has managed to fall several times, one time she had 16 metal clamps put in the back of her head. she too is covered black and blue, the least fall or knock leaves huge marks. her blood does not clot so good and she has had two bleeds in her brain. and still she refuses to believe how sick she is.
i take it, that it is your sisters son that looks after her. he must try hard but cant be there all times, if you cant persuade her, you have to leave her and let her live life as she chooses. i know its heartbreaking to watch, i struggle with it all the time. unless your sister has an accident that requires hospital treatment she will probably do anything to stay out the hospital.
if only you could send them somewhere and they would come back cured, then they could start to rebuild whats left of their life.
Sounds like she is "forgetting" that she agreed to it. So yes...keep reaffirming that this is something she agreed to, and also be very positive about it. Tell her what great care she will receive, etc.
“Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference."
you might have much longer than you thought with your mum. it truly is in gods hands.
when my mum was told she only would live 3 months if she continued to drink, that was over two years ago. me myself, would not be able to take the amount of alcohol that she takes and still function, but she manages it. and still life goes on for her .... many times i have though about people who get no chances in life, they are in an accident or have an illness but do not survive. through reading many past posts, i realise that liver disease has no fast rules and as you know can affect all parts of the body.
in her own mind she probably wonders what all the fuss is about, she might not be the person she was but she still can manage. maybe thats what keeps her going,who knows. i know my mum is in complete denial over her addiction and how ill she is, she says she cant remember being in hospital so many times. maybe she just remembers what she wants to.
i hope you find some help for your mum,that defianately takes the worry of u. as caring for her means you are constantly worrying about her. you have to take some time out and think of yourself, its not selfish but necessary.