“Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference."
I hope you will spend whatever time you can with your gran in her last days. Not eating or drinking is often the first indication that the body is shutting down and death is imminent. Her urine output will likely decrease and become concentrated as her kidneys shut down. You can wet her mouth with ice chips or offer her water through a straw. You can gently apply lotion to her face and limbs. That will feel good to her. I did this with my favorite aunt in her final days last Dec. She was 82, but we were very close and it was hard to watch her die. However, she knew I was there and appreciated it.
My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
saw gran yesterday. she has this toothless smile which is just priceless. i have taken in some old photos and put them upon the wall where she can see them.
doctors say her kidneys are still functioning ok, but she does not want to eat. she has told the nurses that she wants to die. they think she is dying. i have told her i loved her and if she decides not to eat then i respect her wishes. doctor says she might not last longer than a few weeks, but it is in gods hands. i am just trying to spend as much time with her as possible. she has barely eaten in 3 weeks. if it is her time i hope she goes soon. she does not want tv, radio she just sits in her room staring at the wall sleeping alot.
my mum has been out a week, she is weak, tired all the time and very frustrated at not being ableto use herhand properly cause of the stroke. she had been sick yesterday and her nose was bleeding. as far as i know she has not been able to get out for a drink. her partner is watching her like a hawk, he even has the neighbours watchin that she does not go out for a drink.
Allie, I am glad you are going to the funeral parlor today to discuss your gran's funeral in advance.
As to your mum, the alcohol could be making her that sick. If her body just can't take any more of it, it will try to get rid of it by vomiting. This may be a blessing in disguise if the drinking makes her sick to her stomach...though I have to say it never stopped my mother, who would drink, go to the bathroom and be sick, then trot back to her room and chug the bottle again. This would go on all night.
Hang in there!
My wee gran passed away on Saturday. she went over 6 weeks with no eating, refusing medication and taking only sips at atime. i am gutted that she is away, but i know she is at peace it has been a long wait. i was with her at the time, which i am gladcause she was scared.
my mum is still in hospital due to get out last week, until she started vomiting, they were very worriedabout her as her neurilogical signs were very low, they say she might have blood posioning. is this what happens when the liver is in a bad way, i do not know what her future is to be.
i have decided tostill go away on holiday its on Thursday, the funeral will be after i come back, hopefully my mum willbe strong enough.
thanks for the support