I posted about a month ago asking what I could do to make my mom seek help. As an update, I finally got her into the hospital. They drained 3.3 liters of fluid from her stomach, did the endoscopes and closed up one bleeding vessel in her stomach. The dr said I won't have to worry about her varices rupturing because she doesn't have "those kind of veins"
When I first got her to the hospital, she was able to live alone, now I have had to move in with her. She is only awake a total of an hour a day. Drinks very little, eats even less. She can't get up by herself, can't walk more than a few feet. I'm having a difficult time getting her to take her medication. Every time she drinks, she starts coughing. There have been times when I thought she wouldn't make it through the day. She is 5'3" weighs 115lbs with a 41" waist. I measure her stomach daily to determine if the fluids are building and how fast.
She refuses to make a will or give me any advice on how she would like things handled. I thought the dr would have ordered hospice for some help after this last visit, but he didn't. He is moving offices and he didn't have any of her test or lab results in her folder. He simply prescribed the lactulose and scheduled a 6 week follow up visit.
My mom just had her first dose of lactulose yesterday. She is on 3 tablespoons twice a day. She only took about half a dose, (I mixed it in her orange juice). Her amonia smell was so strong, if was difficult to be near her. To me it smells more like nail polish remover.
Mom had several bowel movements yesterday that she was unable to control. I'm on my third load of laundry now. I know the lactulose is to make her have bowel movements, but is it so powerful that she doesn't know its coming? Or is the loss of control another stage in the dying process?