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deedee48
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   Posted 10/5/2009 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Connie and Rick, Just wanted to let you know that my husband is still drinking, and I'm completly disgussted but I guess as long as he is'nt violent ,I just will have to accept the things I can not change.
Today he gets his needle biopsy. I hope it goes well and he doesn't have any bleeding problems associated with it(due to his low platelets and high pro time) I pray he doesnt need to have the surgery to remove the lump under his nipple. They will have to put him under general anesthisa and this could  be very dangerous for his liver. I will keep you updated.
Connie, How are you doing? Getting around alittle better as every day goes by,I hope :-)   I e-mailed you not sure if you got,I also e-mailed pg but i didnt get a response,Please let me know if you got it.
Take care and I think of you  all often,
DeeDee

hep93
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   Posted 10/5/2009 12:50 PM (GMT -7)   

DeeDee, I don't recall getting an e-mail from you lately.  Even though you seem to have made the decision to stay with your husband, I still suggest a consultation with a divorce lawyer.  You need to know where you stand, so if you ever do decide to leave (or kick him out) you need to be informed.

If he does need surgery, you should inform the doctor about his drinking.  I've been under anesthesia 8 times in the past 7 yrs. and it's never hurt my liver.  Of course, I'm not drinking.  But alcohol thins the blood, so that would be the concern with your husband.

You need to make a point of getting out once in awhile.

Rick, you should go fishing with your friend before the weather changes and before you have a transplant.  As you know, that will be a long recovery.

ETA:  Rick, I tried to e-mail you and it was returned to me, saying you don't have a Yahoo acct.  Plesae e-mail me with your correct e-mail addy.

Hugs,

Connie



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Post Edited (hep93) : 10/5/2009 2:49:02 PM (GMT-6)


Pink Grandma
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   Posted 10/6/2009 1:20 PM (GMT -7)   
DeeDee I didn't get an email either.......is yours in your profile......I'll send you one so that you can reply to it.  

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deedee48
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   Posted 10/7/2009 6:01 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi friends, My husband recieved a call today about the biopsy. Good news,its not malignant. Thank God . He said to me he will now stop drinking since he's not going to die of breast cancer. This is one of the most assinine things I ever heard. I told him he is killing himself drinking. His response was I dont feel that I am,I told him I can see it. I just hope he stops drinking. The blood work he had drawn the other day, are all high(bilirubin,alkaline phosphate,pt/INR, and other liver fct. tests) His albumin,platlets,and segs. are low. I pray to God he stops drinking.He has a triple whammy against his liver,Hemochromatosis, hepc and alcohol.

I'm doing ok,just really tired. I took the week off work and I have'nt got off the couch. I even orderd take outs(healthy ones of course) I rented a couple of movies and watched tv. I'm actually alittle bored right now. I guess tomorrow I'll do something just to get out of this slump I'm in.

Connie, My hepatologist told me the general anesthesia can make my liver fail and I would need a transplant asap(which  I probably would'nt get one on time) He said that gen.anesthesia makes your organs slow down and its very good chance it wont start working enough to survive. If I ever need surgery I will go to the University Hosp. where my G.I. DR. and the transplant team are. My G.I. said to go to local Hosp. and have them transport me by ambulance or if need be helicopter. I'm glad you didnt have any problems with your sugeries.

Take Care and God bless all,

DeeDee


hep93
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   Posted 10/7/2009 6:29 PM (GMT -7)   

DeeDee, I sincerely hope that your husband cares enough about himself and his marriage to stop drinking.  It will definitely get to his liver eventually.  In fact, the elevated enzymes prove that it already is.  Of course, some of it is contributed to hep C, but they probably wouldn't be as high if he wasn't drinking.  Mine aren't much above normal.

Even though I had liver cancer and only have the left lobe remaining, plus hep C and cirrhosis, nobody ever said anything to me pre-surgery about anesthesia affecting my liver.  I do know it affects my skin.  I have dry skin anyway, and after anesthesia I'm flaking like crazy.  However, the surgeries I've had were necessary, so I guess there wasn't any alternative.

Hugs,

Connie


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deedee48
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   Posted 10/11/2009 6:03 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi All, My husband went to a meeting tonight(AA) :-) I am very happy about this. I just hope he continues.

How is everybody? Rick did you have your appointment yet?

Take care .....My thoughts and prayers are with you all,

DeeDee

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


hep93
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   Posted 10/11/2009 7:04 PM (GMT -7)   

That's good news!  He keeps going back, so maybe eventually it will "take."  However, I have to say that he should go as often as there is a meeting.  He devoted a lot of time to drinking and needs to devote the same amount of time to meetings.  I know you are powerless over what he does or doesn't do, but just giving you a heads up that one meeting does not a sober alcoholic make. 

Hugs,

Connie


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deedee48
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   Posted 10/14/2009 7:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Rick. Thanks for asking,I'm hanging in there. I'm glad your going to go back to meetings. I think all with addiction problems should continue to go to meetings ,no matter how long sober. I have heard alot go to just see friends that they have made through AA. My husband went to 2 meetings today so today was good. One day at a time,Right?

How are  you feeling and how is your wife and girls?

Take care of your self my prayers are with you,

DEEDEE


hep93
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   Posted 10/14/2009 8:57 PM (GMT -7)   

DeeDee, lifelong friendships are made in AA.  I actually got an apt. with another woman in AA when we both had about 2 yrs. of sobriety.  We lived together for a year before I got engaged and moved out.  That was 20 yrs. ago.  She is now living in another state, but we still stay in touch.  That is why AA is called a "fellowship."

Hugs,

Connie


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deedee48
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   Posted 10/15/2009 5:37 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Rick,Glad to hear you went to a meeting. Glad the family is well except for the flu shots. I guess MCD's  is like the magic band aid LOL. Is the swine flu in your area yet? It's in my surronding area. My Dr. didn't mention to me to get vaccinated for it,I guess its still questionable? Some say yes some say no. I will get the reg. flu shot but not the swine.

Take care and keep me posted about your appointment.

Dee Dee

hep93
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   Posted 10/15/2009 1:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Rick, you are really on a roll and I don't mean Onion.  LOL  It's okay, though.  The swine flu vaccine is something I also wondered about.  I did call Mayo Transplant Center and was told IF NOT ON THE TRANSPLANT LIST, it's okay to have it.  If you ARE on the transplant list, don't take it.  Now, I'm not certain of the rationale for this, except perhaps that if you are a transplant candidate then your liver is in really bad shape and perhaps couldn't handle the swine flu vaccine.  I had the regular flu shot at Walgreen's 2 weeks ago.  They were supposed to be giving the swine flu vaccine at my apt. complex yesterday, but it turns out they didn't have it available.  They were giving pneumonia shots, too, but I didn't get one because 1. I had one 2 years ago and it's supposed to last for 5 years, but obviously didn't protect me as I contracted pneumonia while in Mayo for surgery in Aug., and 2. Since I just had pneumonia, I think I may have some immunity and the shot might overkill.  skull    shocked
 
Hugs,
Connie
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