Timeless, Hubby's drinking

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deedee48
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   Posted 11/16/2009 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Rick, I hope all is well. I haven't been on in awhile due to the fact my husband started drinking again and I left him for a couple of days. He is on track again since Friday. Hopefully he finally gets it right. He is going to a AA mans meeting tonight (I don't know anything about this meeting)  He also is seeking spirituality (he has a problem with this and beliefs)
How are you doing with AA and your health?? How is your wife and children? Hope you all are well. Even when I don't post and I'm not on line:
My thoughts and prayers  are with you all,
DeeDee

hep93
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   Posted 11/16/2009 12:29 PM (GMT -7)   

Dee, I believe Rick is going through the remainder of his liver transplant evaluation this week.  I know his parents are with him.

A men's meeting is a regular AA meeting, but consists only of men.  Sometimes men feel safer opening up to a group of men rather than a mixed group.  Same-sex groups also tend to be more honest.  I hope it is of help to him.  Most people have a problem with the spirituality aspect early on.  I just used the group as my Higher Power for quite a long time. 

Hugs,

Connie

 


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   Posted 11/16/2009 3:04 PM (GMT -7)   

Rick, glad to hear it went well!

Hugs,

Connie


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deedee48
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   Posted 11/27/2009 7:24 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Connie & Rick, Just wanted to let you know Hubby is still not drinking. Thank God and for your prayers. We had a nice Thanksgiving. How was yours?

I seen my hepatologist and got good news he said I'm stable and that my liver enzymes are just about nomal. As far as my fatigue he said for me to sleep when my body tells me too. He sais it's from the hep c. I have to get my scans and more labs after the holidays and after that a MRI in 6 mo. and then DR. appointment. Prayers appreciated for good results.

How are you both doing?? Hope all is well.

Thoughys and Prayers are with you Always,

DeeDee

P.S. going away for a few days,be back soon

hep93
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   Posted 11/27/2009 2:59 PM (GMT -7)   

DeeDee, that is GREAT news for both of you.  He passed that hurtle.  I have to tell you I was concerned about him.  Now, if he can just make it through the rest of the holidays, maybe we can breathe a little bit easier.

It's true that the hep C causes terrible fatigue.  That is why the last 10 yrs. that I worked, I was only able to do so P/T.  Now that I'm retired, I usually sleep 12 hours at a time, only interrupted by a couple of bathroom trips.  So glad that your labs were good.  Mine were also, and my liver enzymes were NORMAL.  I couldn't believe it.  First time since about '89.

Enjoy the rest of your long weekend!

Hugs,

Connie


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   Posted 11/28/2009 10:48 AM (GMT -7)   
We will sabotage ourselves if we don't believe we deserve success.
 
The above was in my Daily Thought from Hazelden today.  Time after time, I've seen low self-esteem (including my own) intertwined with alcoholism.  DeeDee, let him know he deserves to be healthy and happy and have a good life.  He may not believe it, but he needs to hear it until he finally DOES know in his core that it is so.
 
Hugs,
Connie
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deedee48
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   Posted 2/1/2010 9:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Connie,worriedgirl and timeless{if you read this},
Hubby is driving me crazy it's so hard for me. He has started drinking again! They told him he had wet brain last year when he was in rehab, it took awhile but his brain function came back and he was the guy I use to know. I'm afraid that if he continues this there will be irreversible damage. It really makes me sick that he continues to do this to him self. He also  had lab work done last week and the Dr. called and said he needs to see a urologist due to his PSA is elevated(3.97) Of course this was his excuse to drink.  Mean time he is making me so stressed out and it's not doing any good for my health. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired . I try so hard to keep my self alive and he is just wasting himself away with the alcohol. Any way thanks for listening and letting me vent

worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/1/2010 9:33 AM (GMT -7)   
hey deedee,
sounds to me you are at the i need to make a decision, unfortunately sometimes we get to that point where its either stay or walk away. if he is affecting your health then you may need to walk away even if it is temporarily. maybe him losing you will wake him up enough to stay sober. he needs AA and a sponser and maybe inpatient treatment if he is gonna break free of this. if you want deedee you can contact me. if you want to let me know and i will send you a way to contact me. i have so much experience in the acoholics department unfortuanately.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


deedee48
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   Posted 2/1/2010 11:34 AM (GMT -7)   

worried girl, hubby is passed out right now and I just packed a bag ,I decided to leave. I can't go on like this, I tried not to give up on him but living with someone and seeing it everyday has taken it's toll on me. I'm tired of feeling like a yo yo. One min. he loves me and then the next he's calling me horrible names. I have been married to him for 30+ years so it's not an easy decision. I also have alot to lose but I don't care about the material things , all that matters now is my health. I have always taken care of him and my kids and there's nobody to take care of me. I guess it's time for me to take care of myself. My problem is with everything in both our names I don't qualify for assistance with medical,financial nothing.

I would like to talk to you, so I would appreciate the contact info. I just know if I will be on for awhile, It depends where I stay if they have internet.

Wish me luck and pray he really gets his act together. Take care and I hope I get on here soon.

Dee Dee


worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/1/2010 11:38 AM (GMT -7)   
i hope you receive my email. i sent you my phone number and you can call i will talk to your hearts content. i hope i gave you the right advice
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


hep93
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   Posted 2/1/2010 12:04 PM (GMT -7)   
DeeDee, I hope you get this.  I just now saw your post.  I am glad that you left and hope you have the strength to stay away.  I am also e-mailing you my phone number.  I hope you can use a friend's or relative's computer or one at the library.
 
Good luck!
 
Big hugs,
Connie
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/1/2010 2:49 PM (GMT -7)   
timeless i have always admired your sentiments and your advice is always good. i hope she follows through and gets some peace. i hope she reaches out to either me or connie. she deserves some good friends
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


shadowsghost
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   Posted 2/2/2010 6:13 AM (GMT -7)   

Dee, I wish I could pass on some good advice for you but I dont know what! I remarried after my first husband passed he became a heavy drinker and I finally decided to leave, I didnt have health issues so our situations were different. I left with the clothes I was wearing and my dog. I had to quit my job as I was his boss.... my new job was unloading freight for Walmart big change from CFO of a small trucking company. I had to start from scratch, you need your support system, friends family anyone, if you need financial help get a legal separation it may help to get benefits. Alot of courthouses have an Attorney of the day that is free to help you file paperwork without fees, my email is listed if you wish to use it. Hang in there and take care of YOU..... if you are taking care of you more people will help.

Sue


When I started counting my blessings my whole world turned around.


hep93
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   Posted 2/2/2010 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   

I totally agree with Sue.  I have "started over from scratch" many times, but each time I've come further and become stronger.  Things don't matter.  YOU do!

Hugs,

Connie


hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
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