Should I go back home?

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rachelsmom2003
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Date Joined Nov 2009
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   Posted 11/17/2009 5:23 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sure by now a few of you have read my posts, and you know my father has hep c and is in the hospital. The doc told my mom today that he is definitely "end stage" which wasn't really a surprise. He has the classic symptoms.... Fluid in the abdomen, blocked bile duct(being held open by a stint), sleeping all the time, he has no bowl(sp) control (which I haven't heard as a symptom yet), bad gall bladder, jaundice, and is irratable on occasion (my dad is usually the nicest man ever), no appetite..... Any how my question to all of you is this, "Should I go home and spend this time with my father?" I am very close to my dad and want to see him while he still has his wits if you know what I mean. I know none of you are docs (lol) (i bet some of you feel like you should be by now) :-)   But my mom is saying he can live a long time in this stage while waiting for a liver or just waiting for the inevitable... I have read conflicting reports, some saying he could have only weeks to months left.... I know every case if different, but I am lost as to what to do... Money is tight as I'm sure it is with everyone and I'm torn between waiting til christmas or going now? Any advice is appreaciated, Thanks!
Also, I hope everyone is feeling well today and continues to hang in there cool

hep93
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   Posted 11/17/2009 6:08 PM (GMT -7)   

Rachel, you need to go with your gut feeling.  If you have a strong feeling that you should go now, then go.  I went through this with my aunt last Dec.  She had been admitted to a NH in late Oct. because she was falling a lot.  It was discovered that she had a sore just below her buttock, which would not heal.  By the beginning of Dec., he was unable to talk much.  I got a strong feeling that she wouldn't last long.  I also thought of maybe waiting until after Christmas, as money is always tight...but the feeling I should go was too strong.  So I flew to see her (had to charge it) on Dec. 6th.  I saw her that day and she was in bad shape, but recognized me and I was able to tell her how much I loved her and appreciated her.  The next day she was comatose and didn't appear to know we were there.  The following day, while I was flying home, she died.  So I am very glad I listened to my instincts.  I took pictures of us together while I was there, too.

This does not mean that your dad's death is imminent.  However, if you strongly feel you should go, then do it.  In my case, I obviously didn't return for her funeral, but I would rather have seen her while she was still alive.

Big hugs,

Connie


hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland


Pink Grandma
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   Posted 11/17/2009 11:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Rachelsmom, That makes 3 of us. Do what your conscious is telling you. I know it's a difficult decision but better safe than sorry. Only God knows what the future will hold.

Thoughts and prayers............
Pink Grandma
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rachelsmom2003
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   Posted 11/19/2009 6:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you to everyone on here for all you support. My dad has been transported to Miami University (yesterday) so hopefully now we will start to get some answers. I had a long talk with my mom and my grandmother and we have decided that I am going to see him either this weekend or next (Thanksgiving). I just have this nagging feeling that won't go away. When I can get him on the phone he sounds a little better, but he will only talk for a minute or so. As most of you can understand he sleeps a good majority of the time right now. I will keep you posted, and thank you for your prayers!

hep93
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Total Posts : 12014
   Posted 11/19/2009 3:41 PM (GMT -7)   

I am glad you are going to see your dad.  Our thoughts will be with you.

Hugs,

Connie


hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

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