DTM, thank you for posting this. I am glad that Hospice was called in for your family (not just your father.) A lot of people have a misconception, as you did, about Hospice, but they really are invaluable to the entire family.
Bless you and yours in the coming year,
I am so sorry to hear that no one explained that to your dad. Hospice is a great help at these times but you can no longer use Dr's that are part of the life saving mentality. Most times you can only use the on call Dr for that hospice chapter or your general prcatitioner. That pertains to all terminal illnesses not just liver disease. Hospice is comfort measures only and your specialists are considered to have life saving goals. Again I am so sorry you were not aware of this from the begining. I know your build a close relationship with some of your Dr's.
Sue is right. Since your dad's hepatologist feels there is nothing more he can do for him, there is no reason to continue following him. This is why he recommended Hospice. It really should have been made more clear that there will be no more testing, treatment, etc.--only comfort measures. I think you should tell your dad that they do not want to put him through any more discomfort, and that quality of life becomes more important than quantity at this stage.
Fifty-five years is remarkable! Your mom is really going to need your support after your dad is gone.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.