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hep93
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   Posted 1/6/2010 12:42 PM (GMT -7)   
How are things going with your mum?  We haven't heard anything from you since the ballyhoo about the "wee Christmas drink."  Please post.
 
Hugs,
Connie
hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
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allie2631
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   Posted 1/7/2010 2:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Connie
Things are much the same with my mum. Since "the Drink episode" all staff have been much more attentive and I think her general care has improved. She has finished her course of Vancomycin so thay are waiting for a few days to see if she needs any more.She is desperate to get out. Nurses and doctors say she will be in for a few more weeks yet,but they do not know my mother. she has a pain in her leg below her wound and also extreme pain in her hip. She also is confused a lot of the time, although the last time i was in she was a little more clearer. I hope the antibiotics have worked,I have read a lot of bad things about mrsa and how it can cause damamge in your system. The surgeon has said if the infection is still there they might have to take out the implant, so fingers crossed.
Now I see the clock ticking for her to get out.iknow the same will happen,she is not willing and has not got the strength to change her life, to me that is the only way she can stay off the drink. Her partner of thirty years, I have still not spoken to him,I am still angry at the way he treated me and my husband, my mum is not taking sides because she does not want any bother from him. But I worry,How can I see her when he is there. It is terrible that things have gotten so bad, but at least i do not have any hassle from him.
She says she won't drink again, mentioned the detox but she has said that before.I am afraid for her when she gets out. the thing is she does not realise that having that wee drink at christmas was a problem, she was shocked when i told her that i had complained.Her words were "I am not pleased you told them i was an alcoholic" that was sad I thought, because you can plainly see what is wrong with her. I am amazed at her. she seems as if she is still in denial and that is what worries me. I feel selfish because i am fed up my life revolving around hospitals.
Thank you everyone for listeing to me rambling on

hep93
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   Posted 1/7/2010 11:27 AM (GMT -7)   

Allie, you are not selfish.  You have given more of yourself than should be expected.

Yes, when released she probably will start drinking again.  She is still not admitting that she has a big problem with alcohol.  I'm concerned about the pain she is feeling.  That tells me that the infection is still there.  They probably need to try a different antibiotic.  At least that would keep her there longer, though unfortunately the end result will probably be the same due to her drinking.

Do remember to take care of yourself.

Hugs,

Connie


hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
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shadowsghost
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   Posted 1/7/2010 8:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Alli, Sadly Vanc is only one of the two drugs MRSA is not resistant to and per the Drs here they are even finding its becoming harder even with those two. Doug had to be treated twice for MRSA thankfully we did the IV therapy at home. Yeah I did it as I didnt trust anyone else to stick to the exactly 12 hrs apart and didnt want him around hospital germ. With your mom that would be impossible so the hospital is the best place for her. You should never feel selfish for feeling her bad choices are taking over your life, you may have to take a step back. For your own health both physicaly and emotionaly you do have your own life that you have worked for and earned. Dont borrow from tomorrow...... a friend told me if you have one foot in tomorrow and one in yesterday all your doing is piddling on today... cleaned it up a bit.
Sue
When I started counting my blessings my whole world turned around.


allie2631
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   Posted 1/8/2010 12:54 AM (GMT -7)   
my mum had made a mistake in telling me her antibiotics have stopped. Nurse said that usually people are on this type of antibiotic for six weeks, so she has only been on in not quite three weeks. it has been 5 weeks today since her operation, her wound is healing on the outside now, docor happy. They are going to do another Ct scan as they think they might have missed something, they are concerned that she is sleeping a lot. She thinks they gave her sleeping tablets, but they insist they have not.
I am trying to remember about myself this time. I manage into the hospital around 3-4 times per week, no way can i manage more as I know my own family need me. we can only do our best yeh!

allie2631
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   Posted 1/10/2010 10:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Rick, you have definately brought a tear to my eye with that post. I am going off to polish my wings now...... You do hhave a habit of saying the right thing at the right time

allie2631
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   Posted 1/12/2010 1:47 AM (GMT -7)   

I am going in to see mymum today. When I saw her on Sunday, she was sitting up bright and cheery, said she felt great and is desperate to get home.  She want to know if she cant get the antibiotics at home,Iknow she is probably pestering them. The confusion is gone, she is being too smart if you know what i mean....she still has a line in and get blood taken constantly, she took a plaster off and the blood was spraying everywhere, nurses had to clean the walls and floors. should that still be happening?? she has been up walking a bit with the zimmer she does ok.

I am getting that dreaded feeling again,no mention of drink at all.  In my heart i feel that she will be back on the drink and all this is in vain. You would think I would be used to it by now. if only ....that would be great.


deedee48
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   Posted 1/12/2010 7:56 AM (GMT -7)   

Allie, Unfortunately I don't think we ever get us to it. I think we just know them to well and our gut instincs are usually right. That terrible fear that over comes us the knot in our stomach we feel, all we can do is pray that today is sober and that they will not pick up that drink.

Last night I had that fear while I was at work and hubby was on his way home. I was wondering if he stopped to buy beer, was he drunk,was he sober? I just hoped for the best and when I got home he was there and thank God, Sober.

I wish you and your mum alot of luck. Be brave and take care of yourself too.

Dee Dee


worriedgirl
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   Posted 1/21/2010 10:37 AM (GMT -7)   
allie unfortunately we continue to hope when we know it is futile. your mom will not wake up and quit unless she wants to. she is great at fooling doctors. i know(now that my mom is gone) that if she would have gotten the liver and lived that she would have treasured it. but not everyone is the same. you have to decide if you can handle this and make your peace with it. it is hard. i know more than most, with exceptions here, how it is with a alcoholic parent(and in my case drugs to). it is a hard thing to live with and we are constantly beating ourselves up for our parents shortcomings. i wish you didnt have to go through this. i wouldnt wish this on anyone. good luck
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


hep93
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   Posted 1/21/2010 3:35 PM (GMT -7)   

WG, it's good to see you posting.  How are you doing, sweetie?

Hugs,

Connie


hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 1/27/2010 6:55 AM (GMT -7)   
i am doing good. still miss my mom terribly but im moving on. i still cant bring myself to delete her phone number from my phone
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


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   Posted 1/27/2010 11:31 AM (GMT -7)   
worriedgirl, I still have my sisters email address on my computer and she has been gone for 8 years. **David**

worriedgirl
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   Posted 1/28/2010 12:26 AM (GMT -7)   

do you ever get the urge to email her even though she is gone. i still have the urge to call my mom and have even picked up the phone to call her and then realize i cant. i can honestly say i never knew i would miss her this much. when she was on the drugs and alcohol i would think life would be easier when she is dead and now that she is i am like i would give anything to get her back. on her birthday(this past january 5) i celebrated it even though she wasnt here by dancing and singing carrie underwood songs and no housework. i think i will do something every year for it. in 3 days it will be my father in laws birthday and first one with him gone to from this same disease.

today at work my employee asked me if i ever smoked weed and i said hell no. i watched what drugs did to my mom. i told him i watched my mom die a horrible death from a horrible disease and i will not do that to my c hild. he said weed will not hurt and i told him that i think it will and i refuse to indulge in such behaviors.

**David** said...
worriedgirl, I still have my sisters email address on my computer and she has been gone for 8 years. **David**

The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


allie2631
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   Posted 1/28/2010 2:04 AM (GMT -7)   
wg, good to hear from you again. My wee gran passed away 4 months ago now, i think about her a lot, she is in my dreams a lot. I remember happy times, i am so lost without her, she was always there for me, non judging in the background. the thought of losing my mum is unbearable, but i know its in her own hands. I know what lies ahead, i know this year will bring more heartache than last, but we go on. My gran made me strong in so many ways, i will always remember her for that. You play those songs as often as you feel, treasure those feelings I think in time the pain will get less.

**David**
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   Posted 1/28/2010 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
worriedgirl, I don't think about emailing Beth, but everyday she's in my mind. While I'm lying in bed, before I go to sleep she comes to mind and there are times when I cry, thinking about the loss. **David**
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