Post Edited (worriedgirl) : 2/1/2010 8:50:05 AM (GMT-7)
WG, thank you for posting. Through your experiences with your mom, you learned a great deal. You are now able to pass that on to others. In doing so, she lives on through you, and her struggle will not have been for nothing.
Big hugs to you,
WG, you can do it here. Just go ahead and do it in this thread that you've started. Maybe some people (lurkers especially) will see themselves in your mom, or their relatives or loved ones will. We have far more lurkers than posters.
WG, what is amazing to me is that you still love and miss your mom, after all that she put you through. You are a very special person. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
WG I read your story and I have to say you are a better person than I! Both my parents were alcoholics and I had enough by the time I was 15.... tired of the mess, fights and also being the parent to 3 siblings. I ran but they found me and dragged me back to the states, they went west and alas I headed east. Been here since, my dad commited suicide when I was 21 six months after my first husband died when we were hit head on by a drunk driver. My mom passed 2 years ago she had early onset alzheimers but had been sober for 10 yrs she remarried of course another alcoholic and the cycle continues...
I lucked out though, I found an awesome family that finished raising me and I never looked back. I have outlived two husbands but have many good memories and belong to a family of 11 siblings that chose me and I them. Yet the cycle continues my oldest of three daughters is an alcoholic who doesnt want to admit she is yet........I worry about her everyday! I sometimes worry that someday I will be taking care of her and watch her go through all this... I just dont know if I could do it.
Worriedgirl, you are a very strong person! It is very hard to not give up especially when mostly all tell you from treatment facilities to let them hit rock bottom on their own and to leave. I think it's harder to stay and not give up. You are right that it's up to what feels right for you and some need to leave the situation and just hope for the best. I'm still dealing with my husband and his drinking its good for a couple of weeks and then he starts all over again.
I wish the best for everybody and my thoughts and prayers are with you all,