WG, I'll pass on your message. She is not using a computer right now.
She has grown children nearby and seems resolved to not go back to her husband--a hard thing after 30+ years of marriage, but she's had enough. I'll let her know you are concerned about her.
WG, glad she called you. I tried to reach her and didn't get an answer. May try again later.
Dee, thanks for posting! I was concerned. Remember what I told you--it takes 6 mos. to a yr. to begin to "get" the program. Think about all the bad parts of being with him when/if you are tempted to return.
Take care of yourself!
Dee-Dee, I'm so glad you posted and are still with your son. If there's a number where I can reach you, please e-mail it to me or call me and I will call you right back. I'd really like to talk to you, though evening is best as I will be out much of this week during the day.
DeeDee, it's so good to hear from you! I am very glad to hear that you are continuing to stay away from your husband. One thing he needs to be sure of is that he is sobering up for himself, not for you. It just doesn't work if an alcoholic or addict does it for someone else--voice of experience here. You are going to need to keep the bad times with him fresh in your mind to stay strong in your convictions.
Try to keep warm and stay out of the bad weather!
I got an e-mail from DeeDee today. She is still away from her husband and doing well. She found out that he has stage 2 varices and portal hypertension, but continues to be sober. He was told that he needs a transplant, but of course he has to be sober for 6 mos. She asked that I say hello to you all and to tell you that she misses you.
DeeDee, those protective orders really mean nothing. He would have to violate it before they could do anything to him and by then it might be too late. I know he's in jail now, but I'm thinking ahead to his possibly getting out. I hope that he can be transferred to a psych. ward in a hospital rather than released. I just want you to be safe and to know you don't have to worry about what he might do. He could harm you in a blackout and not even remember doing it. And he really should be the one to have to leave the house, not you. However, I'm not sure you are safe there. You see now why I was insisting on him being at least 6 mos. sober before going back to him, and why transplant centers require that? Also, remember our conversation and me telling you that he would try to manipulate you by threatening suicide? You simply cannot get involved, regardless of what he is saying or doing.
Please do call me when you can. I expect to be here the next few days and nights. I can call you right back. Try to make it after 5 PM, though, if possible.
Post Edited (hep93) : 2/24/2010 11:10:38 AM (GMT-7)
Hi Everyone! It's great to be back home. Theres no place like home. I'm doing pretty good and my home is nice and quiet and I'm really enjoying the peacefullness here. It seems like I was gone for alot longer than I actually was. Hubby is out of jail but not bothering me. He is going to meetings and is very remorseful. He has alot of sole searching to do along with being sober. He needs to take care of himself now and get is life on track without me. He needs to learn to do things for himself. I can't help him he has to help himself. I hope he can stay sober so I can trust him again, I would hate to throw away a 30 plus yr. marriage but it will take time for me to be sure he is really sober. I need to take care of me now .
I want to thank you all for your support and prayers. Now, how is everybody???? Please get me caught up.
DeeDee, it's good to see you posting! You've been missed. Your husband has a long road ahead of him to sobriety.
We have a lot of new members here. Hope you can read some of their posts and participate.
Keep in touch!
Connie, I had the hearing today I will call you tomorrow and tell you what happened.(he is still not home) I'm going to my daughters today to watch her kids until she gets back from school tonight. She has parent teacher conferences and where she teaches it's a very large school so she won't be home until about 9:30 and then I have to drive home. She lives about 1 hr. from me.
Take care ,