Allie, it is natural to be weak after having been mostly confined to bed for weeks. Your mum needs to continue whatever exercises they gave her in the hospital for her hip and to walk, even if it's with a walker or cane. Since she says she "may" drink if she "goes someplace special" means she's not done with drinking and is going to do so at the first opportunity.
I'm really sorry that you are in this situation. Just remember to put yourself, your life and your own family first.
Post Edited (allie2631) : 2/12/2010 5:03:14 PM (GMT-7)
Allie, she is likely to slip and fall getting in and out of the tub, and will break her pelvis or knock the hip loose, both of which will land her back in the hospital for more surgery and she may never walk again. If she wants to take that chance, there's nothing you can do. I hope the people that are coming in will be very honest with her.
You were very strong and loving in taking care of your gran. I know you miss her, but you certainly did right by her. Your mom is a different animal entirely. WG, threatening her is not going to make a bit of difference. It won't even phase her, as she still has her live-in partner there.
Allie, you've done and are doing your best. She's just not willing to cooperate.
Post Edited (hep93) : 2/14/2010 12:06:06 PM (GMT-7)
Allie, she is either likely to slip and fall getting in and out of the tub, and will break her pelvis or knock the hip loose, both of which will land her back in the hospital for more surgery and she may never walk again. If she wants to take that chance, there's nothing you can do. I hope the people that are coming in will be very honest with her.
Allie, I'm really sorry, though I'm not at all surprised. She just was in so much denial and wasn't willing. I'm surprised she stayed sober as long as she did. You need to concentrate on yourself and your family. I am glad to hear you've started counseling. It may seem unfair when it is others that have the problems, but you have too much on you to be of help--and your mom doesn't want it or appreciate it. You need to learn how to cope and how not to get sucked into all the drama.
yes, you got it right,i do need to learn to cope, this time i am really going to try that. i have had so much drama these last couple of years.
i knew in my heart that my mum was stillvery much in denial. i am afraid there is no hope for her. thank you for your comment.
Allie, I'm glad you were able to get away for a little while. Read my latest post to NCborn and bred. Your situations are so similar.