well i almost cried again today.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/22/2010 12:29 PM (GMT -7)   
well the pain is lessening each day of losing my mom. and its because i am providing advice to those here on healingwell and because i am my moms daughter. i was raised to keep on moving despite anything. to get back up when life gets you down and i know there are worse things than what i am going through. but today while cleaning my computer room i came across the funeral cards with my moms picture on it and tears came to my eyes and made me miss her again. lol just when i think i am done i find i am still missing her. god i never thought id miss her that much esp. since we werent close. i again choked back the tears and put them away. isnt it strange i can look at her urn and be ok but find a piece of paper and start to cry. and im pissed because i accidently deleted my whole contact list including my moms phone number and for the life of me i cant remember it and now its gone.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


hep93
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   Posted 2/22/2010 2:32 PM (GMT -7)   

{{{{{{{{{Worried Girl}}}}}}}}}  That is just part of the grieving process.  You will think you are doing fine, then out of the blue you will come across something or think of something and the tears will come again.  It just takes time for the pain of loss to lessen.  You have done great so far and I know you will be fine in the future.  For now, don't worry about crying from time to time or missing your mom.  It's entirely natural.

Hugs,

Connie


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**David**
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   Posted 2/22/2010 3:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Worried Girl, If you weren't feeling pain and loss over your mothers passing, then you'd have a problem. It never goes away, but it will get better. Stay strong. **David**

CGR
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   Posted 2/22/2010 10:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear WorriedGirl,

You and all of the posters here are such angels. You mention that you are "your mothers daughter". This is the legacy she has given you. I have to guess that you Mom was a loving woman, in whatever way she could be, and that you have to continue to allow her love to continue by remaining a member of this family here.

 

Know that it is okay to cry. Salt water is cleansing for our bodies and our sould, and out tears contain the very salt of our own lives.

 

Blessings be upon you,

 

Rob


worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/23/2010 1:54 PM (GMT -7)   
yes my mom did love us, even if it was in her own way. i do have to say despite the drugs and alcohol my  mom did put us first by sacrificing  being with a man to make sure we were protected, even though she came close to being married once and we told her to that we loved the guy but she didnt trust any man around us.
 
but most of that i learned because of how my mom was. if i let it get me down then i wouldnt be happy and could have moved in the same direction but i made myself better and refused to be like that. i want my daughter to know beyond a resonable doubt that i loved her more than anything in the world. in that respect i guess my mom taught me  how to be a better mother.


The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


shadowsghost
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   Posted 2/25/2010 10:58 PM (GMT -7)   
WG, My Doug has been gone almost a year and I still have those moments. I look over at his box, nope he isnt in an urn, I put him in a small travel trunk as he loved to travel and I will complain that he really is a pain just chillin there. Once in awhile I threaten to kick him, my girls will have their moments too..... and they want to punch him in the nose! We actually post comments on his facebook. It is the weirdest things that set us off...... hang in there it does get easier.
Sue
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/26/2010 11:36 AM (GMT -7)   
its crazy though for me cause i look at her urn every day but a picture to do that. i miss her like crazy esp. on special days like thanksgiving(this year was the worst cause she died three days prior to thanksgiving.) christmas, new years, her birthday, and my anniversary.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


allie2631
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   Posted 2/26/2010 2:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Grieving so they say can take a very long time for some and not so long for others. despite everything you went through with your mum you still are strong and still are standing with her even though she has passed. you will get there it just takes time. by helping others it really has helped you help yourself. soemtimes i ache deep inside, i miss my gran who has not long passed, her ashes are still waiting i cannot face picking them up. i wanted my mum to be there to help me, but that aint going to happen. i know i am stronger than i think but inside i feel like i am crumbling..now i am at a crossroads not knowing which way is best. you keep it up worried girl...you will make it through this and your pain will gradually ease through time

DDLee
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   Posted 2/27/2010 1:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi,
 
I wanted to thank you for your post on my thread.  You have been a great help.  Your posts where actually what got me on here in the first place.  Your story is so similar to mine and I felt like this was somewhere I could come and learn from others.  I have been able to get a better picture of her side of all of this.  I hope that you feel the comfort from others that you have given to me.
 
DDLee
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 2/28/2010 4:47 PM (GMT -7)   
i am so glad i can help. if ever u need to talk my yahoo addy is here just click on my name.
DDLee said...
Hi,
 
I wanted to thank you for your post on my thread.  You have been a great help.  Your posts where actually what got me on here in the first place.  Your story is so similar to mine and I felt like this was somewhere I could come and learn from others.  I have been able to get a better picture of her side of all of this.  I hope that you feel the comfort from others that you have given to me.
 
DDLee
smile 

The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are

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