Allie, if he says he cannot cope, then why doesn't HE call social services? I hate to see you being dragged into the whole thing again. History will only repeat itself.
Allie, you are right. Social Services would likely have her admitted to a detox center and she's been that route before. Really, there is nothing to be done. Even petitioning the court would have the same outcome. You are really just going to have to remove yourself from the situation as much as possible and let her do whatever she wants to herself. It would actually be better if her partner left her, as you could then tell the court (or whomever) that she is incapable of caring for herself and perhaps she would be placed in a NH. That is what eventually happened to my mother--she ended up in a NH, not knowing her own name. Neither I nor my sister know how she got there, as we had both severed ties with her years before. We only found out that's where she was when I found through SS that she had died and my sister got the hospital records.
allie, i am so sorry that you are traveling down this same road again. please know i am praying for you and your mom.
Allie, you can't get sucked in again. It will drain you dry and you will have nothing left for yourself or your own family.
Allie, you are the one living it, and that is much harder.
Allie, is she in the same hospital she has been in the past few times? If so, they should see a pattern here. She absolutely needs to be placed in a NH (and it doesn't have to be for substance abuse--I don't think there is such a thing), as she cannot care for herself. The important thing here is for her partner to stick to his guns--that he cannot handle her anymore and is done. And you, too, of course. Then they have no recourse but to place her.
Good luck and big hugs,
Post Edited (allie2631) : 3/22/2010 11:18:48 AM (GMT-6)
Allie, can you really blame them for giving up on her when she won't cooperate? Her determination to continue drinking, although it is killing her, makes whatever they try to do for her futile. They cannot help her if she is unwilling, which she has shown time and again she is by her behavior. I do wish they would discharge her to a NH or long term care facility, based on her not being able to care for herself properly, but they can't force her to go, either.
Allie, the sad truth is that she is going to die whether someone is there or not--it just might be a little sooner if left alone, which actually might be a blessing for her and everyone concerned. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but this needs to be faced realistically.