My Dad Passed Away Peacefully on Sunday - His Story

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DTM
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   Posted 3/31/2010 7:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been a member of this site since September and it has brought me much peace and a huge amount of information.  After this I will log off but I want to give everyone my thanks and prayers and share my Dad's story.
 
My Dad ended his battle with cirrhosis on Sunday and passed away peacefully at home.   He was diagnosed 2 years ago due to bleeding varices.  Had I known then what I know now I would have recognized the signs and encouraged him to see the Dr long before.  My Dad was 71 when diagnosed and successfully gave up drinking for about 6 months.  Once he started drinking again the disease accelerated.   He had many good days and many bad days.  Some days he was limited to the wheel chair, others he was able to walk throughout the house.  He had many falling spells because he could not keep his balance.  He retained fluid and had paracentisis every 4-6 weeks.  Towards the end it was every 2 weeks.
 
In December the Dr declared that there was nothing else to do and handed it over to Hospice.  I can not say enough how amazing the hospice organization is.  With their help we were able to keep Dad at home.  A person came 3 times a week to bathe my father and help mom change the bed linens, the nurse came once a week and they provided equipment around the house to help him be independent.  Towards the end they brought in a hospital bed to put in the family room and provided 24 hour nursing care so my mother could focus on just loving my Dad vs providing medical / personal care.  The chaplain would visit and even brought his guitar and sang to my Dad.
 
He slipped into a coma Wednesday (the day before he was very interactive and coherent) and passed away 7:00 am Sunday.  
 
I could not change my father and could not make him stop drinking.  I could though love him unconditionally and spend as much time as possible with him.  I was thankful I had that time.
 
Good luck to all and God Bless
 
Donna
 
 

hep93
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   Posted 3/31/2010 8:01 PM (GMT -7)   

Donna, I'm very sorry for your loss, but glad that Hospice was involved and made his passing easier.  Thank you for sharing his story.  Maybe it will be a cautionary tale to others.

Please feel free to continue to post here and share your experience with others.

Big hugs,

Connie


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Pink Grandma
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   Posted 3/31/2010 8:21 PM (GMT -7)   
(((Donna))) I am very sorry for your loss. I am glad that you were able to love him unconditionally and have him home. I am sure that he very much appreciated everything that you did for him.....whether or not he could express it to you. You are a wonderful daughter.

I agree that Hospice is a wonderful organization......glad they were able to help you and your family through this difficult time.

And I ditto what Connie said.......please continue to post here anytime that you would like.

Take care......thoughts and prayers.........
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allie2631
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   Posted 4/1/2010 12:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Donna, thank you for sharing your dads story. I am really sorry about him passing away. I am glad to hear about the hospice being wonderful and how it helped you all through this sad time. They definately are a valuable asset. it is an important that you felt at peace with your dad, hopefully I will feel the same when the time comes. My thoughts are with you.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 4/1/2010 3:17 AM (GMT -7)   
im sorry donna about your loss. remember though he will always be in your heart. i like what my signature says about people never dying because they dont really. please continue to post as you can be helpful to others who are going through this
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.


child4
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   Posted 4/1/2010 6:16 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  I lost my mom in December - all I can tell you is that greif is alot like falling in love - it's different for everyone and hits you at unexpected times.  I still find myself coming to this cite, although i don't post.  Come back and find comfort.
 
B

CGR
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   Posted 4/1/2010 10:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Donna,

I am also feel for you with your loss.

However, I am also concerned that you state that you are logging off from here.

This site needs people like you to help others who are just beginning in this journey.

Please stay and contribute so that others may benefit.

Blessings,

Rob

DTM
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   Posted 4/2/2010 10:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Rob and all. I will keep visiting and sharing my story and support to others. What I received from you all was invaluable. I hope that I can give hope and peace to others by sharing my father's story and my family's emotional journey that we took together.

harpazomeup
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   Posted 4/2/2010 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Donna, thank you for sharing your story.  I am glad that your dad was able to be at home with a family that loved (and still does) love him.  Yes, I know we cannot change others, but the fact that you stuck by him through all this shows how much you really cared. My deepest condolences.   Harp.

Bee83
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   Posted 4/2/2010 10:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Sorry for your lost. My prayers are with you. I'm still grieving the lost of my mom from a few weeks ago..all that I can say is that there will be plenty of ups and down emotions ahead just be strong and PRAY.

4uiamhere
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   Posted 4/6/2010 7:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Donna, I hope you are doing ok. How did your dads service go? I was thinking of you all weekend I hope your ok.

Sue
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