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allie2631
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   Posted 4/13/2010 12:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Got another phonecall to say my mum had fallen and cut her head, she was taken to hospital. Again this time  I waited a while until I phoned. They told me they discovered a massive bleed in her brain and transferred her right away to the hospital which specialises in this. She is still awake, they are going to do more detailed scans before they make any decisions about any operations. She has a large hematoma on her leg which the hospital bandaged the day before. How much more can she go through, so much suffering. I want to stay distant but it is hard when you here news like that. Part of me is thinking why operate she is going to get out and do the same again....

arneeb
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   Posted 4/13/2010 3:16 AM (GMT -7)   
so so sorry Allie that ur going through this... at least Mike quit falling because of the drinking he was doing last year... he had some similiar things happen but related to drinking although come to think of it... he just fell the other day.. but usually does well.. course we're headed down the end of this trail also... my thoughts are with you.. and I feel the same way... as u do.. take care.. praying for u and ur mom.. Sandi

worriedgirl
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   Posted 4/13/2010 7:04 AM (GMT -7)   
i am so sorry allie. sometimes i think life can be cruel. your mom has suffered so much, most of it her own doing to the drinking, yet she continues to bounce back which is a good thing but sometimes it makes you wonder if it is worth so much suffering. when i saw my mom suffering i asked myself why God just doesnt take her so her pain will end. i wasnt being selfish it was that i hated seeing her suffer so much. but then the other half is thinking if she would just quit drinking then the suffering wouldnt be as bad as it is. i know this road as i have been down it and it is not a pretty road. they dont realize that we suffer with them when they continue to destroy themselves
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.


hep93
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   Posted 4/13/2010 11:42 AM (GMT -7)   

Allie, I fell a lot when I drank and I can tell you that if she fell because of her drinking, she didn't feel a thing.  It is you that is suffering.  Alcohol in sufficient amounts is an anesthetic.  I would often wake up in the morning covered with bruises, thinking someone had beat me up, but knowing I had just been falling since I was alone.  Her inability to clot is probably what caused the brain bleed when she hit her head.  It's amazing the amount of abuse the body can take and still be alive.  For your own mental health, I hope you will distance yourself emotionally, and also physically if necessary.

Hugs,

Connie



hep93
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"But that was yesterday, and I was a different person then."
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Post Edited (hep93) : 4/14/2010 10:42:05 AM (GMT-6)


allie2631
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   Posted 4/14/2010 3:37 AM (GMT -7)   
I am really trying to Connie. Nurse phoned me last night she had started taking seizuires so they put her in the high dependency unit, to moniter her overnight. They also gave her an extra scan after the seizuires. She is awake but confused this morning, my guess it is going to be the same old..same old..Something inside me keeps saying what is the point of all this??? I am on a much needed holiday not going anywhere but it is still a break from work, but it has not been a break. Still we go on..I will go today see whoever and what has to be done and then sit back and let her get on with it for a while. Well that is my plan.

allie2631
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   Posted 4/15/2010 6:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Quick update thought it was an aneurism but no it is not just bleeding through another traumatic fall, she is getting transferred back to a hospital nearer, so things are now back as they were.full of promises that I refuse to listen to, not going to listen to as I have been there and so on....not going to go up for a while. They will probably let her out soon. she was causing chaos in the ward last night accusing nursing staff of stealing from her, they had to phone us twice to calm her, now they have transferred her, surprise surprise. so things will go on again til the next time, nothing changes ah, thank you everyone for your support

worriedgirl
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   Posted 4/15/2010 3:03 PM (GMT -7)   
hey allie, will you email me, my email me is in my profile. i would like to chat with you if possible.

The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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