Livvielou, the probable reason for her doctor telling her she would die before she gets a transplant is the fact that all transplant centers require 6 mos. of DOCUMENTED sobriety in AA or alcohol counseling before they will even evaluate an alcoholic. He probably doesn't think she can stay sober long enough. She's awfully young to give up. If they can get the ascites and edema controlled, she should start going to AA. There is also a procedure known as TIPS to help with the fluid problem, but she must be healthy enough to undergo the surgery. Is she being seen by a hepatologist? If not, she should be.
If she can stay stopped, she might have a chance. However, fluid retention bad enough to be drained every few days is an indication that her liver is in very bad shape.