Imalittleteapot, welcome to the forum. You can start by doing a search for alcoholic cirrhosis and reading some of the posts on here. I also suggest you read the info in the folder at the top of the page, entitled Hepatitis Resources. It will tell you what to expect with ESLD. I will tell you, as a sober alcoholic (23 1/2 yrs. of continuous sobriety, thanks to AA), that there is not one thing you can do for your father if he is intent on drinking. The doctors will not be able to help him, either. I had a mother who was a lifelong alcoholic and I finally found it necessary to cut off all ties with her in order to maintain my own sanity. She died alone in a hospital, but I have no regrets. Perhaps the difference is that I only spent 6 yrs. of my life with her, and there was never a real emotional connection, especially on her part. This is a decision you will have to make--when enough is enough. NC is correct, though--you have to take care of yourself, first and foremost, regardless of your decision. And don't get caught up in all the drama. There are certainly many here who can relate to you and give you support and information.
Post Edited (hep93) : 4/30/2010 9:37:33 PM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (imalittleteapot) : 4/30/2010 6:30:12 PM (GMT-6)
Teapot, get him some adult diapers and insist he use them. He probably has hepatic encephalopathy, caused by high ammonia levels that accumulate in the brain and will affect his thinking. Lactulose is the usual treatment for that, but then he would definitely need the diapers as there is diarrhea.
Teapot, I just noticed in your original post that your dad is 63. Since he is having financial problems, it might be best for him to go ahead and sign up for early Social Security. At the same time, he could apply for SS Disability, although that might take awhile to come through. If he needs help with the forms, you could do it or the SS people will help him. If he applied now for early retirement benefits, he would get his first check in June. Then, if the SSD finally went through, his current benefits would be increased to whatever he would have gotten at full retirement age. He would have to wait 2 yrs. for Medicare, but could probably qualify financially for Medicaid if he takes regular SS early retirement.