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vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/10/2010 11:12 AM (GMT -7)   
I miss school today cause I wasn't feeling very well and decided to go to the clinic, After speaking with the doctor he advised me that there might be an issue with my liver.

He didn't want to put me on med's cause after what I had told him with whats been going on. He advised that if he put me on anything that my liver might fail on me..

My jaw dropped, I didn't know to cry right away or just say " yeah right doc, what's really going on with me"

Then he gave me a few other options that I might have to get on the transplant list.

I'm 26 years old and scared to death, I can't tell my friends cause I don't want to burden them and My parents are so old school that they just won't understand.

My appointment for the specialist isn't till a month away, I wish I never put this off and I wish I was never introduce to the club scene.

I'm sorry to put this out here. Just don't know what to do or where to go from here.

arneeb
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   Posted 5/10/2010 12:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Take a deep breath... you are surely in the right place.. Pink Grandma will probably get to you later in this day.. however... what is the diagnosis... what tests did they run?? and what exactly is the doctor saying?? Those things are important... and finding out specific test results.. because they will give you a baseline for later on in this.. now do you have Hep C or something like that?? Take a deep breath... you have come to the right place... and there is an excellent support network of information and people available here.. the rest of the people while chime in later... Sandi
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vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/10/2010 12:33 PM (GMT -7)   
A year ago I ended up in the hospital for Alcohol poisoning, Doctor had advised me that I have an enlarged liver. Of course stupid me didn't bother going to see a specialist on it.

5 months ago I've been getting sick a lot. Meaning Anytime anyone had a cold I would get sick for weeks and weeks even months. After I get better if someone had a minor cough I would be sick again for weeks on end.

I Can't eat.. Everything I get doesn't stay in. I've been getting sick and foam would come up.. Even when i drink water and I get sick and foam would come up.

I knew sometime was wrong but was just to busy to get it checked out.

I got my blood work done. Now he wants to do ultrasound and gastric he thinks it could also be hep b?

Don't know how I would get that.

All I keep thinking is that my family is just gonna blame this all on me. And now that i'm missing school. This is the worst day of my life.

vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/10/2010 3:31 PM (GMT -7)   
I made a step in trying to talk to my friends today and have some support. Funny thing is they all turned there back and said its nothing. You just need some meds and you will be fine.

Its only been a few hrs and I feel like my life is just caving in.

**David**
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   Posted 5/10/2010 4:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Don't start assuming that your life is over, just because a doctor told you of dire consequences. If they haven't run tests and are trying to scare you straight, shame on them. Have the tests, beginning with blood work and then you'll have something to start with. Don't think your family will blame you. Everyone makes mistakes and your problem might not be a result of alcohol poisoning. Freaking out won't help the situation. Calm down and see a hepatologist or at least a gastroenterologist for a more thorough diagnosis. If your friends turned their back on you, they're not true friends. We're here to help you. **David**

vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/10/2010 4:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Funny one minute your going in thinking you just have a flu and then you get hit with something totally different. I'm trying to hang in there but my mind is going crazy.

Funny how i'm the strong type and the one that doesn't cry or anything yet one thing out of a doctors mouth changes everything.

I went for my blood work right after I left his office. And he said it would take a week before we find out what's going on.

I'm a mess right now..

I don't know if I can last a week without knowing.. I don't know if i can go to my classes

**David**
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   Posted 5/10/2010 5:34 PM (GMT -7)   
You don't know what you have, so it's too early to assume the worst.

**David**
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   Posted 5/10/2010 5:56 PM (GMT -7)   
You don't know what you have, so it's too early to assume the worst.

Here are a few things to keep in mind. Not everything that a doctor says is always correct. Some doctors are better than others. Every medical class has someone who's last in the class. I'm not saying that's the case, but...

You say you're the strong type, so suck it up, go to class and get on with your life. Feeling bad will not help you get better, if in fact you're sick (which isn't a fact as of now). Reading many of the posts in this forum ought to make you sit up and NOT sit there feeling sorry for yourself. There are plenty of people posting here that are already moaning about their situation in life. You're too young to start with that garbage. I spent years feeling (physically) lousy, went through interferon therapy for a year, then had a cerebral hemorrhage, waited five years with liver failure, and last year had a liver transplant. Eight years of bad things and now I have a new life. At this point you don't know what is going on. At your age you haven't been around long enough to realize that things will get better. They always do. Never give up. **David**

Pink Grandma
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   Posted 5/10/2010 5:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello vVAsianVv, and welcome to HealingWell.  
As Sandi said,  "Take a deep breath" and calm down.   Panicing will not do you any good.
 
But I don't understand about the results of the bloodwork taking a week.  Are you in the US?   If so call where you had the blood drawn and comfirm with them that it actually takes a week.   I got my husband's results the same day for most of the bloodwork. 
They would fax the results to me at my place of employment so I got them at the same time as his doctors.   His doctor had to approve for them to do this though.  
If in fact it actually takes a week.........keep yourself busy.   Go to class and get your mind of it.   Easier said than done ........but it can be done.    
 
Your health should be your top priority.......if you think something is seriously wrong get it checked out.  Don't put it off.  
 
Also until you get the results.........do not drink alcohol.   If in fact your liver is damaged.......drinking alcolhol is like throughing gasoline on a fire.    
 
Let us know the results.......Take care and stay busy........thoughts and prayers.....
 
 
 
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hep93
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   Posted 5/10/2010 6:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello, vV, and welcome to the forum.  The others are right.  It is much too soon to assume the worst.  You don't even have a diagnosis.  Do you know what blood work was done?  I'm assuming they did a liver panel, and hopefully also tests for hepatitis B and C.  If you have been drinking a lot of alcohol, it could affect your liver, but normally that takes many years to cause problems.  However, since you said you had alcohol poisoning, if you continued to drink after that, you could have caused further damage.  If you have acute hep B or C, you would feel sick.  Once you get your blood work back and know more, and if there are elevated liver enzymes or you test positive for hepatitis, I suggest you go to a hepatologist.  They are specialists in liver disease and that is what you will need.  Sometimes, the immune system will rid the body of the hep viruses.  If it doesn't, you will be chronically infected.  You could also have autoimmune hepatitis, which is an autoimmune disease and genetic.  Until you know exactly what is going on, we can't help much.  Just take deep breaths and try not to worry needlessly.
 
Hugs,
Connie
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vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/10/2010 7:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you to everyone that has been here and helping me threw this.

I'm in Ontario Canada and I went to talk to my cousin and she just pushed me away,,

I guess I will be dealing with this on my own :( Yes he did a Hep b test and live and other stuff and i'm going for an ultrasound and gastrics on June 10th

I will keep everyone updated and I will call tomorrow

arneeb
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   Posted 5/10/2010 11:06 PM (GMT -7)   
You aren't alone in this... settle down.. you have a whole group of people who have different experiences.. just walk the path... if you can find someone to confide in fine.. but walk each day one day at a time.... you don't have to have someone there .. though it would be nice... just focus on you right now.. and come back a few times a day if need be... we're all here for you just settle your butt down... cool your jets... educate yourself.. read the resources here.. and read the threads... you have no clue what your're dealing with.. so until you know what you're facing now sense in panicking over that which is not yours to deal with... take care and you are in my thoughts and prayers... Sandi
There is no pit so deep that He is not deeper still... Corrie Ten Boom


vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/13/2010 7:35 AM (GMT -7)   
So I got a call yesterday from the doctors office, And they advised me to come in and see the doctor today.

The results are I have to come back and take another test after my ultrasound. He kept-ed on looking at the paper and when he tried to talk he would studder and look at the paper.

He said that my liver level was high whatever that means, But he said he needed to take more test.

should I be worried ha he asked me if I was still drinking.

I said no.. " I lied"

I had one last night I was so upset.

Bah

hep93
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   Posted 5/13/2010 10:05 AM (GMT -7)   

vV, first of all, until you had the drink last night, how long had it been since you last drank?  Please be aware that any alcohol you intake will have a negative effect on your tests.  You need to absolutely not drink at all in order to get proper results, and also to insure that you do no further damage to your liver.  There are other things you can do to manage anger, such as running, whacking a tennis ball or using a plastic bat to beat a bed, or just go out in the woods and scream!  DO NOT DRINK.

From what he said, it sounds like your liver enzymes are elevated, but he is not sure why.  That is why he is ordering further tests.  Try not to get upset.  You still don't know what you are dealing with, but I am beginning to think that your liver problems are a result of your drinking.

Hugs,

Connie



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mathman
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   Posted 5/13/2010 1:08 PM (GMT -7)   
If your doctor came in and told you that you have cirrhosis, what would be different? If you get an all-clear, would you continue to drink until your liver does go out? I think in either case all you can do is be strong and take care of yourself. Take vitamins, eat right, and think forward.

People as young as us are incredibly resilient, whether we acknowledge it or not. But this is your chance. Make a change. As much abuse as I've done to myself, I shouldn't be here, but I am. If you have a problem quitting get help. But Connie is right - Do not take another drink. The next one might be the last.

**David**
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   Posted 5/13/2010 1:25 PM (GMT -7)   
You're not helping your liver recover if you still drink. Not only that, an accurate diagnosis is impossible if you've been drinking. You lied to the doctor and had a drink because you were bummed out. Keep drinking and you'll continue to get more bad news. There will be a good reason for it. If you lie to your doctor, it's a waste of both your time and money. His time as well. People who won't listen to their doctor make me wonder why they even go to see them. It's like taking your car to a mechanic and they tell you your transmission is going, but if you adjust the bands now, it will last a long time. Instead of fixing it, you keep driving the car until it craps out. Then you go ***** to the mechanic 'cause it doesn't go. Who's fault is that? Yours. Do the right things, quit complaining, quit drinking and listen to your doctor. Stop lying to him and yourself. I never drank much and my liver failed from Hep C. When I was told not to drink, that was it, I quit right then. You need to as well. **David**

vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/13/2010 5:10 PM (GMT -7)   
I understand that and I haven't had one since last night. And If I am in need of a new live I will NOT and I mean NOT be drinking once I get my new LIVER.

It is hard when you have no support next to you and when you try to talk to someone and it just get's brushed of..

I am not asking for pitty I guess I'm just here needing the support I need.

But If people here think that I'm asking for PITTYNESS then I guess I'll find the support some where else.

nc born and bred
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   Posted 5/13/2010 6:06 PM (GMT -7)   
shakehead  ok 1st of all everyone on here are very caring supportive people.. read the post on here and see how much alcoholic can ruin someones life. they arent trying to put you down, just trying to make you understand the road you will be heading down if you continue to drink.my mom is an alcoholic, who is now paying the price dearly for it. if thats how you want to end up,then keep drinking..... stopping now may very well save your life. and why go the dr if you are going to lie to him? seems to me like you are on your own pity wagon,and want others to reassure you that you will be ok even if you drink.... it doesnt work that way.. devil people that know they may have a chance to repair damage to their body like making life changes (no drinking) never cease to amaze me by continuing on the path to destruction..

**David**
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   Posted 5/13/2010 7:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't pity you. I was crazy in my late teens and twenties, but alcohol wasn't my drug of choice. Psychedelics were mine. None of what I did brought me to a doctor with a health related problem. Would I have quit, had that happened? Probably not. I didn't have anyone with this kind of experience to talk to.Your case is different. People on this forum have been involved in alcohol/liver failure problems. Learn from them. You said if there's a problem with your liver, then you'll quit. There is a problem, otherwise you wouldn't be here. Don't wait to find out how much of a problem it is. Quit now and if it turns out there's no problem, then you can go back to partying. Having said that, I hope this scare makes you face reality and slow down. Alcohol poisoning certainly should have been enough. You say you've been sick since then and are still drinking. Look at what's happening to you. If you truly don't want to burden your parents, stay dry for them, if not for you. I'm not down on you, but I am down on what you're doing to yourself and those who care about you. Believe me, everyone here cares. That doesn't mean I'm going to blow smoke up your skirt. It's this simple - alcohol is a poison. A poison that is particularly bad for livers (not so good for other organs, too). No more drinking until you find out what's going on from your doctor. Do the right thing for yourself, your parents and us. I've seen enough bad endings on this forum, we'd like a happy one. Please! **David**

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   Posted 5/13/2010 11:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I speak to you coming fresh from the bedside of my life partner whom I loved and love dearly and who passed on April 22,2010 from ESLD and Liver Cancer due to Cirhossi and Hep C... Monday we bury his ashes... these are the ghosts that we want you to have to avoid... these are the moments we would have you spared.. and for a simple no to alchohol... to drinking... this can spare you agony, misery, and pain.. and those around you... we care enough to put ourselves out there in these posts... to say without sugar coating... with this disease... you drink... you die... and sometimes you don't drink you die... but your chances are better... and you must be honest with your doctors and you are not alone... I was on here through out the whole process with Mike you can read as we went to the Mayo and then were home alone with the diagnosis of no treatment until the very day he died and from the moments he was leaving in the ambulance.. I was on here for support.. because I had no one else... so if it ruffles your feathers a little that we care enough to say the truth with love and caring that's okay.. we'll help you get them smoothed out again too.. enough said... my thoughts and prayers are with you.. please stay.. there is much to learn here and much support...don't ask us to enable your lying to yourself.. every moment is precious and can be lifesaving... keep your face to the sun... you won't see the shadows!!  Sandi
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vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/14/2010 1:25 AM (GMT -7)   
I do understand what everyone is saying and I thank you for that, This is why I came here hoping that I was going to get the support I need. It's hard I don't drink to party I drink to forget. If I stop drinking then all the bad stuff will come back. If I don't stop drinking then i'm gonna end up dead.

I have tired and I've been doing week. I went from Everyday drinking to 3 times every other week drinking.

I started drinking since I was 13 and haven't stop since. I want to stop cause I can see what it is doing to me. My uncle is the same way. He drinks everyday and nothing is wrong with him.

After reading a lot of post on here, That I will not be drinking anymore. I don't want my parents to have to say "GoodBye" anytime soon or my friends..

And I would like to see my lil brother off to collage.

I do want a family :)

I just wish my appointment could come sooner. I'm sad that I have to wait almost a month to get everything done.

But I will Keep everyone posted and Thank you so much for everything.. Being able to listen/read means a lot.

I know some ppl think that it doesn't mean anything but it does.

Cause if I hadn't run into this site.. Thinks would not have looked so well.

Thank you to everyone :)

with Luv,

vVAsianhttpVv

vVAsianVv
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   Posted 5/14/2010 1:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Question My right not hip but at the front really hurts.. It's been hurting for 2 hrs now but I took Advil and I had a really bad headache what does that mean?

worriedgirl
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   Posted 5/14/2010 6:54 AM (GMT -7)   
i dont know asian, my mom used to get pain in her legs when her potassium was low. the headache can just be a normal headache.

i dont know why people drink even when their liver is getting bad. you are so young and have a enlarged liver its sad. i hope for your sake that there is no cirrhosis or major liver damage and that its just a warning sign. if it is a warning sign then heed the sign. DONT DRINK. im sorry but i just lost my mom in november to cirrhosis and hep c. the cirrhosis from the hep c and drinking. trust me it is not a pretty thing to die from. i would say i am not trying to scare you but i am. maybe by scaring you it will help you. i still post here because i feel if i can help one person then my mom would not have died in vain.

when she died she had fluid leaking from her belly, her eyes, her nose, her mouth and i believe her ears. her kidneys failed her, her liver failed her and her heart failed last. im sure if it wasnt for her being in a coma that it would have been painful. when she was alive i had to leave work two or three times because she was in so much pain she couldnt walk and we spent the day in the er. there were days she was so jaundiced she looked green and not just her face, her entire body. there were days were we could have the same conversation over and over and over because the liver disease messed with her memory. there were days were my mom had no energy to even get out of bed and eat. the meds that she had to take, constant doctor stays and er visits. oh and dont forget the ascites(water retention) at one point they removed 3 liters or gallons(im not sure which) from her belly and she still looked 8 months pregnant.

and all this is just what was happening to her i wont even go into how it made me and my sister feel. all the heartache we have been through the pain and the suffering and the guilt that i feel every day because of this disease.

hun im not being mean but if you continue this is where you will head possibly(every one is different) and i hope that you can understand where i am coming from. dont wait for a diagnosis to quit drinking, quit now. go to AA, get a sponsor, talk to your parents or school counselor, or get a counselor. dont wait til its too late as im sure anyone can tell you once its too late there is no returning.
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hep93
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   Posted 5/14/2010 9:24 AM (GMT -7)   
vV, please look for an AA group near you (call the number listed under Alcoholics Anonymous in the phone book and they will give you the info of the group closest to you.)  AA helps you cope with all the "bad stuff" that is there when you stop drinking.  It gives you a way to stop drinking and be at peace with yourself and others.  You will also find a lot of support there.  In larger cities, there are also AA groups for young people.  Try it.  You have nothing to lose but your misery.
 
Hugs,
Connie
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 5/14/2010 9:27 AM (GMT -7)   
was i too harsh in my reply
hep93 said...
vV, please look for an AA group near you (call the number listed under Alcoholics Anonymous in the phone book and they will give you the info of the group closest to you.)  AA helps you cope with all the "bad stuff" that is there when you stop drinking.  It gives you a way to stop drinking and be at peace with yourself and others.  You will also find a lot of support there.  In larger cities, there are also AA groups for young people.  Try it.  You have nothing to lose but your misery.
 
Hugs,
Connie


The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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