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allie2631
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   Posted 5/21/2010 1:47 PM (GMT -7)   
I thought I would keep you posted on my mum. Nothing has changed much , she is still drinking very heavily last week she fell cut her head again hospital let her out again and phoned a taxi to take her home. She has been at it all week, finally fell again, giant sized bump on the head and she split open her face again.
we had a conversation on Monday, she honestly does not think she has a problem. she has lain in her own mess, vomiting over herself being too drunk to get up. still she survives....
I have been trying to keep myself busy, still  visit but not get too involved,although it still upsets me the states she gets herself into.

hep93
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   Posted 5/21/2010 3:17 PM (GMT -7)   

Allie, thanks for the update.  It's amazing how much the human body can endure and still survive.  You really cannot help someone who doesn't even think they have a problem.  So be good to yourself and take care of yourself.

Hugs,

Connie


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KathleenW
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   Posted 5/23/2010 8:39 AM (GMT -7)   
So sorry for your pain. It is so awful not being able to help a loved one. I would suggest you go to an Al-non meeting for yourself. Good luck and stay strong.

allie2631
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   Posted 6/18/2010 2:54 PM (GMT -7)   

Hiya not posted for sometimes guess it is cause i have nothing new to report. My mum is still here still drinking ...a lot. hardly eating saw her tonight, she was out for it passed out on the couch, she has to be propped up as you can hear a gurgling noise, and she is repeatedly wretching trying to be sick. the bottom half of her face is purple, bruises by the many falls.her arms are covered in blacked bruised blood which have been bleeding.

 i went tosee my friend tonight her brother who was only 46 died this week, he was a heavy drinking who lost his battle. It amazes me how my mum is still with us.


hep93
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   Posted 6/18/2010 5:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Allie! You know, I'm rethinking the situation with your mom and I believe she DOES know she has a problem--how could she not? Deep down, she knows it's the reason for the falls, getting sick to her stomach, and the state she is in. But to admit it would mean doing something about it--which she doesn't want to do and doesn't believe she can. And really, at this point, it would probably be too late to do any good medically. It sure would make a world of difference to everyone else, but practicing alcoholics are the epitome of "self will run riot," i.e., selfishness and selfcenteredness.

I'm glad you are maintaining some emotional and physical distance and taking care of yourself. That's really the healthy thing to do to maintain your own sanity.

Hugs,
Connie
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Post Edited (hep93) : 6/18/2010 9:30:10 PM (GMT-6)


arneeb
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   Posted 6/18/2010 9:34 PM (GMT -7)   
All I can say is WOW Allie... my thoughts and prayers are with you, your mom, and your family... it's amazing the place that the mind of the drunk goes to.. in that the person thinks this type of lifestyle is ok to live and ok to have someone else experience while trying to help....... I can't imagine ... keep your balance and boundaries... ur cared for ... deeply... Sandi
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KathleenW
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   Posted 6/18/2010 9:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Allie, I am so sorry for your situation - You may want to go to a 12 step support group of some kind. It is very unfortunate when our loved ones continue to harm themselves despite all the warnings. Alcoholics who continue to drink are very sick people. I agree with Connie, you do need to take care of yourself now. It is not selfish to do this as your mom can only help herself. Best of luck and remember, you can't control this situation and it is not your fault! God bless you!
Kathleen
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CGR
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   Posted 6/19/2010 12:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Allie, Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you & your Mum as well.

This must be so difficult for you.

Please keep your balance and take care of you.

Blessings,

Rob
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