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worriedgirl
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   Posted 7/22/2010 2:10 PM (GMT -7)   
hey i havent heard from you guys in awhile. how are you guys and your moms. you guys have been on my thoughts.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.


nc born and bred
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   Posted 7/22/2010 4:02 PM (GMT -7)   
 hello. i wish i could say things were great but they arent. my mom has had a big decline this week. in a sleepy state most of the time.... she has her moments. but shes never fully alert anymore. i have took over cleaning her house, laundry, well pretty much everything.... we are looking into a full time person (CNA) to stay with her. she still says stepdad coming home. i look forward to going to bed at nite... long days.......i am just taking it day by day..
 

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   Posted 7/22/2010 10:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Praying for your strenth to hold up.. Sandi
There is no pit so deep that He is not deeper still... Corrie Ten Boom


allie2631
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   Posted 7/23/2010 3:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Worried girl, thank you for asking bout my mum. Like Sandi,  the situation is the same.
 My mum got out of hospital onTuesday(she was having prolonged seizuires). her mobility is not good, she is very unsteady on her feet, sounds very weak, lies sleeping about half the day, she does not do anything in the house at all it is all left to her partner. she never really wants to talk to me, gets annoyed when asked how she is. yesterday she was being sick constantly she is getting severe pains in her hip she had a hip replacement just before xmas, do not know if something is wrong there. right now i think she is too sick to think about drinking, I know as soon as she feels a little better she will drink. I think like pink grandma says in another post that inside she is sick of being sick. she is so lucky she has someone at home, if not she would have to go to a nursing home there is no way she can cope alone.
Even after all these years and allthat her partner has been through, he still does not cometoterms with the fact that she is not going to give up, even the nurse at the hospital this time says my mum was very adament about not giving up refusing any help and being very cheeky and difficult.
me I am ok, I have learned to step back a little and try and concentrate on my own family, cause my mum does not want my help.
I still crave for the mum I should have had, just like you worried girl. it hurts so much , but I have got to get through this .
 
Sandi always thinking of you when I come on here, we all have so much in common
 
Arneeb you and worried girl have came through the worst, now is the time you look back and try and make sense of it all and get on with your lives, you both have did so well....

arneeb
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   Posted 7/23/2010 9:56 PM (GMT -7)   
oh no every day is a battle and a choice to go on.. into what seems like darkness.... I would rather have spent 20 years by his side tending to his every need.. but I will go on.. slowly... have an interview this Thursday.. hoping it'll work out.. can move and get a new perspective... but thanks for ur kinds words... just fakin it until im makin it...
There is no pit so deep that He is not deeper still... Corrie Ten Boom


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   Posted 7/23/2010 10:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Sandi, you keep faking and you will be making it ......it's just going to take time. You'll get to the point when you realize........hey I'm not faking anymore. I realized I wasn't faking it anymore when I had my first real laugh......boy did it feel good. Hang in there sweetie, it's tough but you can get through this. If you got through the journey of liver disease by his side you are one tough cookie.

Lot's of thoughts and prayers.........
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allie2631
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   Posted 7/24/2010 12:17 AM (GMT -7)   
sandi sorry when I read my post back it did not sound right. Of course you miss him greatly and are still hurting really badly. you have shown so much strength and courage, and you are still helping others down this terrible road.

goodluck for the interview.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 7/24/2010 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
i am so sorry to hear your moms are not doing so well. sometimes i wonder why God lets them suffer so much. my hubby said something the other day that kinda struck me. he said my mom was dead a couple of years prior the drugs and alcohol just kept her up and i wonder if there is any truth to it. even though she quit the drugs and alcohol all that was in her system may have kept her til it ran out.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.


hep93
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   Posted 7/24/2010 12:12 PM (GMT -7)   

Allie, regarding your mom's hip replacement:  If she has fallen since having it, something could very well have slipped out of place and is causing the pain.  If it were dislocated, she would not be able to bear weight on that side at all.  Since she doesn't follow through with appts., I doubt she's been in for x-rays.  When I've had hip replacements and revisions, I've had to go in for f/u x-rays and visits at 6 wks., 3 mos., 6 mos. and eventually just once a year.

Hugs,

Connie


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allie2631
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   Posted 7/25/2010 3:25 AM (GMT -7)   
yes connie I think she has done something, she has fallen quite a few times since the operation so i would not be surprised. Just trying to get her x rayed is the problem.her walking is bad.

hep93
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   Posted 7/25/2010 11:06 AM (GMT -7)   

A fall is the worst thing that can happen to a hip replacement patient.  If she complains of hip pain, insist on taking her in for an x-ray.  If she refuses, then there's nothing you can do.

Hugs,

Connie



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allie2631
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   Posted 7/25/2010 3:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Well Connie since her hip replacement she has fallen loads of times,so i would not be surprised if there has been some sort of damage.
she does not adhere to any of the advice given for any of her problems, she does complain of a constant pain in her hip which is almost crippling her, but refuses to go and see about it. she gets annoyed when you try and talk to her about it.

she recently got an appointment for heart tests as her doctor had said her heart was weakening, whatever that means.

worried girl i beleive your husband is right, I lostmy mum along time ago ,too long. i know i will never get her back again. But I do wish for some sort of peace between us ...

arneeb
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   Posted 7/25/2010 10:42 PM (GMT -7)   
sometimes I can understand those days now through the retrospective lens that helping others provides... the days went slow but fast.. if that makes sense... and I understand more clearly some of the things that we went through now... on the other side there are still many things to cope with... and for me that is the loss of my housing and the scramble to find a home...which I haven't been able to do yet... and the 1st is looming over my head... I have peace and know that God will provide... I am loving him every day.. I can not imagine walking away from him... David... my heart just dived to hear that... but not all are cut out for this walk... so onward we go.. thanks for ur kind words..
There is no pit so deep that He is not deeper still... Corrie Ten Boom

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