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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 1130
   Posted 8/3/2010 10:29 AM (GMT -6)   
hi caregivers, i just wanted to give you a word of encouragement. i know how hard it is to take care of someone with liver disease that are in the final stages. i know sometimes they can get mean(some of them) and i know them being sick is hard to watch. you feel as if it drains away your energy and takes away from your life some. there are days that you even think  you cant go on. i know that because i was once a caregiver. but know that your mom or whoever it is loves you and knows that you are doing your best even if they get mean sometimes and doesnt act like they care. know that you are appreciated and that when they move on you will be able to look back and say "hey i did the best i could do and im happy with myself". know that there are people here to help you on your journey and take each day and learn from it. this will teach you so much. know that we love you.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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Date Joined Jun 2010
Total Posts : 74
   Posted 8/4/2010 4:51 AM (GMT -6)   
worried girl that helps me so much an i uderstand your suffering,as i too am watching my dad go through this awfull disease,people around me ask "hows your dad doing" i say to them ok at the moment!!you just cant tell them how it really is an how you feel.only on here with people who have seen this for themselves,an know the heartbreak it causes.i wish you well spooky x

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Date Joined May 2010
Total Posts : 70
   Posted 8/5/2010 12:29 AM (GMT -6)   
I know what spookjan i s saying. You almost feel like you are not suppose say what you are really feeling. I sometimes feel like I am not to feel a certain way .Like angry.sad, just wanting it over or happy for her.

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Date Joined Mar 2008
Total Posts : 313
   Posted 8/5/2010 2:51 AM (GMT -6)   
No one knows how we feel until you have been down that road, even then each situation is unique. When peolpe ask you how yourmum/da/partner is feeling, they ask out of kindness and politeness. It really would not be fair on them to tell them how you really feel, they would feel embarrassed wishing they had never asked in the first place. You have to deal with your anger and guilt about the situation, angry cause you do not really understand maybe why and guilty because at times you wish the nightmare was over. I suppose they are all normalfeelings. That is the great thing about this forum,people do understand without you having to say anything, they know things because they have been through it.
worried girl you were such a credit to your mum being with her until the end. I know you still have your little doubts of did i do enough? and what ifs.... You could not have done any more and the fact that you are still her helping others is great...becuase your information is priceless to others, you are always there wanting to give that little bit more, it is very much appreciated, thank you.

As children of alcoholics we are left feeling a little inadequate amongst other thing, our parent have the habit of bringing our mood down by a small comment or such like. I only hope i can learn from what I have been through, to be a good caring person who considers others feelings and gets on with life coping with the ups and downs that comes along.

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Date Joined Nov 2009
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   Posted 8/5/2010 3:39 AM (GMT -6)   
I just told everyone everything was fine... and told Mike that too... then told everyone here how it reallly was... the only place I could go... and talk about how lonely, scared, guilty, angry... etc that I felt... and only here could I talk about our journey together in a way that helped me put it all in perspective... and the journey has not ended... now I'm still telling everyone everything is fine...not much has changed... Sandi

There is no pit so deep that He is not deeper still... Corrie Ten Boom
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