hi, I am new here. my son has been drinking since he was in high school and is now 47. he would go thru 30 beers a day. about 4 months ago i received a call from the hospital that i had better get there quickly as he was in a coma and they did not expect him to make it. he was in the hospital for a month, came out very weak but made it. after this time he is starting to fail again, his ascetis is extreme, they have to pump him out about once a month. He coughs a lot, has heart failure, edema, and the swelling. he always feels better after the paracentesis (pumping) but how many time can they do this before it becomes perilous to his health.
Since I am in my 70s, it is very difficult to go thru this with him. But I never gave up on him.
My question is, how long will this go on. I know that no one has a chrystal ball but he has no quality of life left. I worry every day that this will be his last. Can anyone help me with this. My mind is in a fog as I just buried my husband after taking care of him for 5 yrs with dementia.
Anyone out there has any advise would be glad to hear from you
hi lerie, thank you so very much for your reply about my son's condition. one problem that i did not mention is that he continues to drink, altho not as much as he was but even one is too much. you are right when you say i need a time out. but it is always in the back of my mind how is he doing. I am so very glad that you are doing so well and have helped me with this.
I joined a non smoking group and with their help was able to quit i figured i would post as the doctors do not tell you much. just knowing there are others in the same boat is very helpful.
Right now he is doing so-so. but every time I look at his wasted body i get scared. i don;t want to bury my son. but he will not follow anything the docs tell him too such as salt restriction and not drinking so much liquid.
Thanks again for your reply. Chris
Man you hit the nail right on the head. Even my doctor, who knows the situation has told me to get away from all this for a while. His ex-wife who does most of the caregiving had just about had enough too. He is sarcastic, nit-picks, seems like his head is always in the clouds.
when you go to visit and he is on the computer or watching TV he does not have the courtesy to turn them off.
I suppose his condition is partially responsible for his actions but that is a lame excuse.
You have been an invaluable help to me and I thank you for it. Reading the other threads has helped enormously also. I am glad that I found this site and especially your replies. I shall distance myself from him for a while and tell my daughter-in-law to do the same. maybe then he will appreciate more what is being done for him. Thanks again.
Chris in Wis
I hope this last day of January finds you feeling well. i think that I have it bad but when I read the threads of the forum members, i find solice in them and wish each and every one good luck.
My son has plans to go for 4 days with some of his cyberfriends fishing and as he says bar hopping. I cannot stop him, nor do I wish too. He says he is up to it but that is questionable.
He has paracentesis about once a month now. Does anyone know how many times is too much or is there no limit on this. I have read what the net has to offer on this disease but it is a crap shoot for each individual is different. My prayers go out to you as you seem to be a lovely person who despite your illness will take the time for others. God bless you and may you live another 10 plus years.
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