hi cured 4 real, you have much insight into so much of these problems it astounds me.
thank you for your reply. i am just an old lady who has had this son of mine drink for 30 yrs.
after a while you get complacent about the whole situation but a son is of your blood and it is not as easy to just shove him off as it would be a distant relative. Usually when he says he has a new affliction I read as much as i can about it on the net. this is a waste of time as he cares not one bit about his situation. when he had the edema so bad he had to be pumped out twice he was worried, but now that it is not coming back he thinks he is cured. he forgets half of what is told him and continues to tell me he is fine. i say no more. what happens to him happens. what angers me is the people on this forum who do everything possible to stay as healthy as they can. I pray for them and hope God willl listen.
thanks for your reply. i appreciate it.
I hope I didn't sound know it all, I didn't mean to. Most of my friends have died. I'm middle aged but was abandoned at 13 and grewup homeless on the street. I have two substance abusing sons, one barely escaped a long prison sentence and the other has wolff parkinson white and grand mal seizures that can kill him by triggering sudden cardiac death, and he continues to abuse. I have to check his room every night to make sure he is not dead, tonight was a bad night. He is so young and beautiful not to care and I swore that when he reached 18 I was going to turn him out on his own, but when I did, he went through all his money on crack in three days and was having miniseizures when I found him. What could I do but bring him home. He begged me to.
You're right about the blood thing. I was abandoned by my parents for something beyond my control, I never did the things my sons do. To care so little. I give you a lot of credit for finding a way to hang in there but keep your own sanity. I'm struggling but am getting to the point where if he screams and yells for me not to call an ambulance or take him to the doctor, I just don't, unless he goes completely out or something. I need to break free, as my youngest son is really draining me of my social security and not pulling his weight. If they don't care, how can we? I give you a lot of credit for being there, it's more than my parents ever were for me. They wouldn't even visit me during interferon therapy though my husband and I pleaded with them to, even though they didn't know if I would live through my acute infection. Sometimes I wish I could not care like they did, just turn my back, but they have turned there backs on my sons and I'm all my sons have as far as family that would take them in or take care of them. You sound like a really good mom.
I think Keith Richards may have acheived zombie status by now. I get scared watching Days, they just never age.
Hi cured4real. WOW you are climbing a mountain and i am on the downslope of a small hill in comparison. I feel like a total idiot complaining about my troubles when I read yours.
The government does not help financially as it can take a whole year to get the SSI. Tht you would continue to care for your boys is unbelievable but I understand, I would not abandon my son either. But as you say you get complacent about them, after a while what they do does not hurt as much. it still hurts, but you too have a life to live and the more you say to your sons about changing the angrier they get. If you were not there for them what would happen to them.
Outside of giving them a place to live, it sounds like nothing you can do will change them.
You are a saint to yur boys and they don;t even appreciate it. Hopefully they will hit rock bottom and change but that is up to them. Thanks for telling your story as it will make people take a look at their situation and figure and isn;t too bad. May the Good Lord look down on you and help you.