Peaches, Welcome to HW. Sorry to hear about your husband drinking. SeaWings has given you some good advice! You can't change what your husband does, he has to! But you need to take care of yourself! I have walked in those shoes myself! My husband has been sober for quite awhile now. But the damage has been done and is not reversible. He is now on the Transplant list. It is the family that does suffer, our lifes have been torn up over their mistakes! Please attend AL-Non as suggested, they can help you cope with this. I love my husband very much, but if he were to start drinking again, I would not hang around, I have been through too much. I know this is not much help, my prayers go out you!