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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 12/11/2007 5:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey guys, I usually post on a/p, depression, and fibromyalgia, as I have all of that, but this post is for my dad.
 
My mom and I were coming home and we happened to be talking about insurance, because I was recently dx with Fibro. She said my dad couldnt get insurance. I knew about a year ago he was going to a blood doc. He told me some stuff about it, but basically said it was nothing. I never thought twice about it. But, my mom asked if I knew why he went and I said no. No one ever tells me anything....and she said....well I am tired of keeping his secrets....
 
Then she said, 'He has Hepatitis C.'
 
I was shocked. I didnt know what to say or think about it. Or what to think of my dad for one thing. They dont get along so great, and I think I know why now. She thinks he may have had an affair 10 yrs ago and thats how he got it. He claims he has no idea how he could have gotten it. So....who am I to believe. What am I to think.
 
Its hard for me to look at him without thinking about it. It is a secret and I am not supposed to know. But, I am worried about him. I dont know what to think. She said his 'levels' were low which makes the docs think he got it within the last 10 years. But, my mom doesnt have it. And they have 3 kids together....the last one being 10yrs old! Coincidence!
 
So, my concern is what is going to happen to him? She said he wasnt going to the doc. I think he may have to get his 'levels' checked every 6 months or something. I am not sure. Its a secret so no one talks about it.
 
But, what should I do? Should I worry about him? What could happen in the future for him? I would really appreciate any help! Thanks!
"Sometimes when I say 'Oh Im fine' I want someone to look me in the eyes and say 'Tell the truth'
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"You asked what was wrong and I smiled and said, 'Nothing' then I turned around and whispered...'Everything'
"If I talk and laugh too loud...its because I am trying to forget that I am sad."
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


Butterflythree
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   Posted 12/11/2007 6:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Tennisdoc09, Welcome to the forum. It is rare for Hep C to be transmitted sexually. It is usually through blood to blood contact. Hep C doesn't have to be a death sentence. Many people live with it for years before any complications develop. There are treatments available that can cure Hep C. Your father should look into them. The best thing you can do is research and find out as much as you can about the disease.
You said the doctor thinks because his levels are low he probably contracted it approximately 10 years ago. That is not necessarily true. My husband and his brother both have Hep C and probably contacted it at the same time. They found out about 14 years ago. My husbands levels have always been high and his brothers levels have always been low. The doctor has told both of them that there is no way of knowing how long a person has had the disease.
Hep C attacks the liver, so your father should avoid alcohol. People with Hep C have an increased risk of developing liver cancer and cirrhosis. But as I said previously, it can take many years before or if this happens. Many people live a very long life.
I hope that this helped a little. There are a lot of other knowledgeable people here that may be able to help.
Don't worry so much. There is help out there.

Also wanted to say I like your quote-this is a perfect description for me

"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Butterflythree
 
There is always hope!


TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 12/11/2007 6:14 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks! That did helped. But, you said there are treatments out there that can cure it. I didnt know it could be cured. But, I am a medical research fanatic so I will be looking into everything possible to learn everything there is learn about it! I am a 16 y.o who has wanted to go into the medical field since birth so, in my spare time I do medical research, which, yes, sounds weird for a 16 yo, but I'm not normal so! Its what I enjoy, but I will being doing that. I am not sure what I can say to him, because my mom told me to not say anything to him. I am not supposed to know. My dad doesnt want anyone to know I guess.

I will secretly begin my research to help him! Thank you for your input!


"Sometimes when I say 'Oh Im fine' I want someone to look me in the eyes and say 'Tell the truth'
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"You asked what was wrong and I smiled and said, 'Nothing' then I turned around and whispered...'Everything'
"If I talk and laugh too loud...its because I am trying to forget that I am sad."
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


Pink Grandma
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   Posted 12/11/2007 6:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello Tennisdoc09, Just want to welcome you to our forum. I ditto everything Butterfly3 has said. You may want to tell your mom come about this site. She probably needs support and we are the folks who can be very supportive in this. We know some of what she is going through. Take care.
Pink Grandma
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When the going gets tough....the tough get going! Don't always know where I going but I get there anyways.


TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 12/11/2007 7:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks. My mom knows I stay on here, but she is 'technologically disabled' She hates computers! She cant even turn one on! She only likes them for looking things up, but she has never done it herself! She is very old-school! But, thanks anyways!

"Sometimes when I say 'Oh Im fine' I want someone to look me in the eyes and say 'Tell the truth'
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"You asked what was wrong and I smiled and said, 'Nothing' then I turned around and whispered...'Everything'
"If I talk and laugh too loud...its because I am trying to forget that I am sad."
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


Butterflythree
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   Posted 12/11/2007 9:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennisdoc09, I am glad I could help. Good luck with your research. There is a lot of information out there. Your parents should be proud to have such an intelligent caring child. I would have never guessed that you were 16. If you can't talk to your dad about the things you learn maybe you should share it with your mom. It would probably very helpful to her.

Take care
Butterflythree
 
There is always hope!

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