Poor thing! I'm sorry to say this, but it's not just male doctors but MOST doctors who treat IBS patients with this lack of understanding and compassion. You will find that almost everyone on this board has experienced this at one time or another. It may be the worst part of dealing with IBS - the medical community doesn't seem to have any "answers" and tends to "blame" the patient.
Some things you've been told are true. Chronics laxative use CAN lead to compromised bowel function but usually that does not occur for many, many years. When I was in my late teens and early 20's (that's 30 years ago!), I could not have a BM without using either a laxative or suppository. However, once I got myself "unhooked" from daily laxative use, I was able to have some restoration of normal bowel function. There are ways to deal with chronic C that do not entail surgery.
I've found naturopathic medicine to be a helpful compliment to all that I do through conventional means. You might want to check into seeing a naturopathic doctor who will take the time to thoroughly discuss and investigate your unique case. Surgery and drastic measures are never a possible outcome with naturopathic medicine and since they consider the digestive system to be the primary factor involved in most health conditions, they have studied it more intensely than most physicians.
While I know this is difficult, you have to try not to take personally the comments you read in your files. I would strongly encourage you to find another doctor as it is clear you will not receive the kind of attention and help you require from those who consider you "at fault" for your condition.
If you are currently dealing with chronic C, there are new drugs available that many have found helpful. There are dietary approaches you can take that will help and a nutritionist can steer you in that direction. Simple adjustments like increasing your water intake and even moderate exercise can help stimulate bowel activity.
I think you are wise to rebuff their agressive tactics regarding surgery. Move on and find yourself a "team" of docs who will take your case seriously and work with you to find some answers.
Hey thanks for all your input! your right I did try the zelnorm it worked great for about 2 weeks also tried the new one amitiza was wonderful I had forgotten how good I feel when all is working well but it only lasted about a week. I am currently seening a chiropractor who also does zone treatments to stimulate nerves that aren't up to par it seems to help so I am continuing with that for a while. I will also be rechecking hormone levels have been on bio-identicals for a while they helped with hot flashes etc. someone told me they had less trouble with c when they got all those levels right. seems to fit since I tried telling the docotrs when this started that it seemed to begin when my cycle got irregular. of course they were guys so they treated me like I was the crazy one. but having read through my file this weekend I was reminded how often that little subject came up and got dismissed to where I even forgot that little element since that was before the hot flashes bad memory etc. started. I guess it's easy to forget how gradually this all began. I have tried a variety of "natural" products of course the docs don't support it. but I am seeing someone new this week to work on the hormones I got her name from the pharm. that does my bio-creams she believes in them so I'm hoping she is familiar with the other. Steve and the pharmacy said I would like her. (after the shock of what the gastro guy wants to do passed) I have been amazed how many other "professionals" have been as blown away by his suggestion as I am. they have all agreed with my response that no way will I let them do that surgery, there is no reason one even said even if you have to take a laxative regularly for the rest of your life BIG DEAL thats better then living without your colon! I choose to believe him if I can't find a better solution than that I can live with that easier then living without my colon. and I have always found the pharmacists to be more knowledgible then a lot of docs when it comes to meds be they rx or over the counter.
I am wondering the magesium is that a supplement? as the milk of mag tends to work too well it's like the prep for the colonscopy can't go too many feet from the bathroom. but maybe the supplement would do the trick?
thanks for all your input! trust me no surgery happening here!!! I won't even see anyone in the gastro clinic again EVER after reading what they wrote about me in my file! and to think I paid them to treat me like that. but it's good to know my instincts were right I told my gp that was their attitude but was told they wouldn't be like that!! as my late husband always said (he was an attorney) NEVER ARGUE WITH A WOMANS GUT FEELING. it's not very often wrong.
What a week!!
this week started out with my gut a mess!! funny how if this is sooo tied to stress why would the gastro jerk be the driving force behind a TON of stress in my life? I have not had this much trouble with my IBS in years and it's all been tied to consulting a gastro pro again heck he didn't even go over my lab results with me when my test came back as precancer and NOT benign as he not only said but it's on my paper work sent home at the time the colonscopy was done! I went to see an internal medicine doc on Thursday and all I can say is THANK GOD FOR HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! she was shocked at the proposal of removing my colon and after much conversation and goin over my medical history I found out that with our cancer history on my mother's side some of it may be genetic!! no one has ever told me that before but good to know for my kids and grandkids! also she explained that there is a connection between IBS and having big babies (I never thought they were so big) but they were 20-21" long so they qualify as "big" also found out that as we (females) age and our test. levels drop that adds to this problem as that is the mobility hormone. so what we are doing is testing for different alergies for six weeks I am on a VERY low fiber diet and she added some test. to my bio. ident. creams. I also went to my local and EXCELLENT chiro. she gave me some ab. massag. to do and some samples of a tea that is a digestive aid. I am sooooo very excited as it has now been 3 days and I have not taken ANYTHING to aid with bowel movements!!!!!!!!!!! and I have had at least one a day! I am very hopeful but I also know that at this point I have very little fiber in my diet so I will keep my fingers crossed and keep you posted how all this works. my internist tells me things will never work as good as they did when I was 20 something but there is no reason we can't deal with this beyond removing my colon.
I'll keep you all posted how this works.
ps. if your interested the tea bag has a web address.
Just wanted to encourage you to continue with the belly massage. This was the most beneficial technique I took away from the hydrotherapy treatment. I do it CONSTANTLY and I swear that nothing else gets my guts as excited as this! Here is the massage practice I use: