I've eaten only one meal a day for about 20 years. I guess you could say I fast for 8 to 10 hours a day, or until I know that I am in for the night with no obligations after the meal. But I have found, over the years, that this has done so much damage to my body and especially my metabolism and digestive system. The problem with the rule "nothing in - nothing out" is that when you don't feed the body regularly, the digestion slows down, the bowels forget what to do, and you can end up with some serious problems. I suffer with anemia, very slow metabolism, terrible thirst, reflux, headaches, bone loss, etc. I attribute all of this (as do the doc's) to a slow process of malnutrition. My goal in life is to be able to eat more than once a day.
Like everyone else, I abstain from food altogether when a big event is looming. As many of you know, my darling son and his fiance are getting married on the fourth of July next year. The venue they've booked is a moored and converted ferry boat that has only ONE bathroom on board. In addition, it's in downtown Seattle, about a 45 minute drive for me. AND the wedding isn't until 6:30 in the evening, so we can all watch the dopey fireworks at 10. I don't see how I can go the whole day and night without eating - not unless they want to pick me up off the floor after I've passed out. I'm so stressed out already about this wedding. Argh....
Post Edited (Marsky) : 5/19/2008 5:52:53 AM (GMT-6)
I can so relate to your posts. It is true - we have to learn a "new normal" and it continues to be a challenge to "fit in" with the non-IBS folks without doing further damage to ourselves. The extremes I have to go to just to engage in a typical activity with friends or work can be utterly stressful and depressing. Coupled with the fact that most people just don't "get" the whole IBS "thing", one can feel very alone and hopeless at times.
I remember things I used to do a mere 5 years ago and I can't believe how impossible those activities seem now. And to make matters worse, I am so much "healthier" today in my eating habits and overall approach to life! Oh, the irony!
How very sweet of you to make such a generous offer! I found out the other day that the kids are planning to book hotel rooms very close to the pier where the ferry boat is docked. I can't tell you how relieved I am about that! I know that I'll have a private and accessible place to go if the situation becomes intolerable.
I can't take immodium. Since my IBS leans more toward C, with a nice helping of D thrown in here and there, I won't take anything that will bind me up. The goal would be to empty out as much as possible the day before so that the gas, bloating, pain and spasm will be kept to a minimum. That is the plan right now but things can change, as we all know. It's still a year away. Who knows what kind of symptoms I'll be having 12 months from now.
My son knows WAY too much about his mama's guts. Unfortunately, I suspect son may have a touch of the dreaded IBS as well. EVERYONE in my life knows about my gut problems but that doesn't always translate to understanding. I find that people rarely comprehend the complexity of IBS UNTIL they have some bowel trouble themselves. I am always the first one they call when they're experiencing C for the first time, or D for a few days in a row. I can't tell you how many times I've heard this: "Wow, is this really how you feel EVERY DAY?" Hello???? Like the saying goes, you can't know until you walk a mile....
I have a year to get mentally prepared as well and everyone here has been so helpful already. I know you guys understand! If I keep talking about it for the next 12 months, maybe by the wedding I won't be anxious anymore!