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dissolvedgirl
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Date Joined Aug 2008
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   Posted 12/7/2008 1:49 AM (GMT -7)   
i cant live a normal life and im still waiting for the day i have to accept that. im uncomfortable 24/7. i need to make this go away but i've tried everything and there is no hope :( i really really thought changing my diet once and for all would fix things, but it's done nothing. the semester is almost over but i just want to go home!!!! i can't stand this daily pain and discomfort. and i wish i didnt have to go to relax and sleep and deal with all of this cry college life is the worst thing for IBS i dont know what to do anymore.

haktryn1110
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Date Joined Nov 2008
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   Posted 12/7/2008 7:04 AM (GMT -7)   
I just finished my college education and I can totally relate to what you are going through. The food, the stress, people don't necessarily understand how it feels. But do keep your head up. Changing your diet from eating at home to college food takes a major toll on your body, and it won't fix in a day. Keep strong and try not to ponder on the pain and discomfort. If it is too unbearable, maybe you should consider a whole lifestyle overall. That's what I ended up doing. I graduated early, got an okay job that pays my bills and just am in the process of whole new life. IBS is going to affect your life, but how you react to it is what you CAN control. Good luck!

Marsky
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   Posted 12/7/2008 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
dissolvedgirl - Ages 18 to 22 and college life only comes around once in your lifetime. Living on a campus, eating dining hall food is a real challenge with IBS. I am so grateful I am much older and can eat the diet that works for me (low residue). We have had a few college students with IBS post and lend support, as you see above (congrats on your graduation and degree haktryn1110!). So please continue to post with us and vent. I do think "talking" to others with IBS issues greatly helps. Helps in coming to terms with the situation you are stuck with - IBS. That said, I do agree with haktryn1110 - the way you react to having IBS does help find some sort of control over the situation. This is where I am now in my life - 9 years after having an important part of my colon removed due to cancer, etc. This is the new me. I had to let go of the old me, long ago. Once I faced facts as they are and will be for the rest of my life, I handled my IBS symptoms much better. When I tried to fit in with others with normal colons (succumbing to peer pressure to eat foods and large meals, while dining out with people who can eat anything they want), it wasn't until I began to change how I handle my situation, that things got better for me. Here is what I do and what I would recommend for you:

Eat the foods that agree with YOUR GI tract (in my case, bananas and vanilla flavored Stonyfield yogurt)
Keep a daily food diary so you know which foods these are.
Eat small portions each meal (in my case, one half of a plain english muffin or bagel is plenty).
I eat about 4 small meals a day. No longer do I even try to eat 3 large meals, like I used to.
Exercise (sounds crazy but exercise does help IBS, try brisk walking or jogging, swimming laps, bicycling).
Drink plenty of water.
Avoid all foods that wreak havoc on your system. If you miss candy or treats, try just 5 M & M's, or one chocolate chip cookie, for examples).
And finally, the important one...
Learn to say no. In a nice but firm way.

Once I figured out it was best not to apologize for my IBS or educate others what it feels like to have IBS, I did much better managing it. I just eat a certain way, sometimes timing when I eat helps too, I say no to certain things if I have to (outings that might not be possible, for another example, I prefer seeing plays or movies before I eat, if I eat first and then get stuck in the middle of a row watching a play, that situation in itself just puts my nerves on edge, the "what if" I need a bathroom suddenly kind of worry, I just don't do it anymore!).....you just say to others, hey let's see an early movie or play and then eat afterwards.

This is when I order from the sides section of a menu (cup of soup or baked potato), meanwhile the people I'm with are ordering huge entrees. I just smile and lie - oh I'm not that hungry.

IMHO, it is perfectly acceptable to lie when you have IBS!

In my case too, it's all an illusion sometimes, I do often pretend my gut isn't heaving, doing it's own thing and that I do have a normal colon. When in fact, nothing could be further from the truth.

You will find what works best for you dissolvedgirl. You will. Resolve yourself to having a different approach to your IBS next semester. Just tell yourself you WILL make this work. Positive thinking, approach.

I hope I've helped you some. Again, forget trying to explain it to anyone without IBS. They will never, ever understand. Change your approach to it and I sincerely believe that is 50% of the whole puzzle of IBS.

Mary/Marsky

horse lover
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 12/7/2008 8:19 PM (GMT -7)   
I used to have IBS. I remember having gas all the time. But now I'm in my 40 s and feel fine. In the last 8 months, I have been taking RELIV products which help my depression and my gut. It sounds like you need more fiber in your diet? Garden of Life makes a great "superseed" fiber drink. Go get some at a health food store. Very worth your money. I think you are at a time in your life where things are just tough. Once you have graduated and things calm down your gut will too. I know it's awful, but you will get better!!!

Pink66
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 12/11/2008 2:12 PM (GMT -7)   

Marsky has some really useful tips, dissolved girl.  We all understand what you are going through.  Just hang in there.  With this particular illness. there is a lot of hit or miss.  Just try different things, starting with what Marsky advised, and work from there.  You will find something that will work.  Just know that you are not alone.

 

Pink66


Pamela Neckpain
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Date Joined May 2008
Total Posts : 1821
   Posted 12/12/2008 7:15 PM (GMT -7)   
It does go away. Mine did.
I had some anxiety-producing
problems and I thought I'd
NEVER EVER get well. I just
wanted to totally hide from
life. In fact, I did for a few
years.
It WILL go away.
I don't think this post helped.
Maybe 1/2 of 1 per cent?
Pamela is better now.
Hope you will be fine soon. :-)

godfearsme
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Date Joined Dec 2008
Total Posts : 7
   Posted 12/17/2008 9:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Disolvedgirl- i know much of how you feel, i am almost 17 and i have been diagnosed with IBS for about 3 years. I can really relate to how you feel considering that at such a younge age i deal with as much stress as i do. The pain that i feel is just something else. I really couldn't describe it. But i will admit that i have cried because of it. I also went on a diet. I stayed on it for 2 years and just gave up. I understand that it dosn't help that i eat things i shouldn't but i just dont know what the point is when im still going to hurt. The biggest reason for pain is stressen and i know you being in college dosnt help but what i have been told is to try to slow everything down in your mind. It helps a little bit.
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