There is no cure for either IBS or Crohn's. There are things you can do, some medicines you can take, which can make it better, but it will never be cured (at least there is nothing available right now that cures). Crohn's can go into remission, which means no symptoms for a while, but it always comes back.
But neither is deadly, so there's no losing your girlfriend that way. My great-uncle had Crohn's and lived to be 82.