I feel like I'm not part of society

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jt80
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   Posted 5/28/2009 6:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey everyone I've been feeling horrible I've been dealing with an IBS symptom that I have not experienced in awhile I've been dealing with chronic constipation for a couple of days now.It's driving me crazy and my spirits have been very low I've been feeling very depressed feeling lots of anxiety feeling traped.I've been feeling like I'm not a part of society do to having IBS I look at people and are envious of them and wish I could be free of all my symptoms to get back to living my dam life again.It's not fair I do not deserve what I have to go through everyday I'm really again mad at God he's supposed to be a healer why has he not healed me from this? My faith is being tested everyday I cant take this anymore I want it to end I just do not want to accept it for what it is.I have so many dreams I want to accomplish I want to visit Paris France that is my dream I want to go back to school and learn french I want to work again.I do not know what to do I feel alone in this and scared there is no more fight in me left.Right now I'm feeling bloated and kind of sick to my stomach I should keep Alkeselser on hand when I feel like this cause I could go for one right now.I guess I will feel better soon hopefully this will pass but I hope everyone is having a better night then I am this is breaking me down. cry mad

poohbagCD
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   Posted 5/28/2009 7:21 PM (GMT -7)   
I know the hopeless feeling oh to well.There is fight left in you for sure cause you are expressing your feelings.I have cronic crohns and my body seems to be my worst enemy.I come from the same planet as you so you are not alone.I cant advise you on how to get rid of that feeling.If you can see,walk,hear,talk you have to be grateful for what you do have somehow cause you can loose more and then its hard to be grateful.A minute at a time.Find a hobby or something your good at so you can feel better about your self.Good luck,keep us posted.Chin up turn turn
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ITSJUSTME0000
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   Posted 5/29/2009 3:04 AM (GMT -7)   
HELLO, IM SO SORRY YOU ARE FEELING SO BAD... I AGREE WITH POOH THAT WAS GREAT ADVICE.... WE ARE ALL HAVING PROBLEMS ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.. ITS VERY SAD.. BUT YOU HAVE GOT TO GET STRONG....YOU CAN..I KNOW IT...ALL YOUR DREAMS WILL COME TRUE...THINK POSITIVE...ITS ONE DAY AT A TIME...I WOULD ALSO LOVE TO FEEL BETTER... ITS A FIGHT AND I WILL NOT GIVE UP.. THERE ARE SOME GREAT PEOPLE ON THIS FORM THAT WILL GIVE YOU SOME GREAT ADVICE AND TRY TO HELP YOU...ITS HARD I KNOW THAT...IM GOING THRU SO MUCH MYSELF..BUT IM TRYING TO DEAL WITH THINGS ONE DAY AT A TIME...BE STRONG...FIGHT...IM HERE IF YOU NEED ME..YOU CAN ALSO EMAIL ME IF YOU LIKE... I WISH YOU THE BEST...

Keriamon
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   Posted 5/29/2009 4:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Actually, not everyone you see around you is healthy and fine.  In any crowd, there are other people that are sick with something.  Maybe something as common and temporary as a cold or allergies, while some might have cancer or an eating disorder.  You are not the only one that suffers; other people are just as adept as you are at pretending to be normal.  And they probably feel just the same--that they are not normal and everyone else is.
 
IBS is on the rise in western countries, whether from diet or just more people willing to talk about it and more doctors willing to recognize it as a real problem.  More likely than not, you already know someone who also has GI problems, they may just not have said anything to you about them because of fear.  When someone I know makes even a slight comment about any sort of gut problem, I open up about my own problems.  This makes my own problems seem less, and everyone else tends to discuss their problems more in depth and with relief that someone understands and doesn't judge and can even pass on helpful tips.  I then add that person to my mental list of people it's okay to be sick around because they'll understand.  The more people you have on that list, the easier it becomes to socialize because you don't have to worry about pretending to be fine when you're not.  And, oddly enough, when you don't have to worry about getting sick, you have a tendency not to get sick. 
 
You have a lot of things you want to do in life, but fear of IBS is getting in your way.  I would suggest adding something else to your list of things to do--something that you should do first: found an IBS support group.  It can be as simple as inviting people into your home once a week just to talk.  It's okay to talk about gut problems in detail (just like we do here), but it's also okay to talk about things which are mostly unrelated--work, kids, love, hobbies, etc.  It can be both a place to share your problems and a place to just socialize like normal people without being afraid of ridicule or condemnation.  They won't care if you have to go to the bathroom or step outside to fart.  They will understand if you don't drink or eat at all, or at least certain things, because they will also have their own personal list of no-no's. 
 
Most all local newspapers have a section where they list local activities that are going on during the week; it won't cost you anything to advertise an IBS support group meeting there.  You might also make up a flyer for your doctor or GI's office and let them know that you are organizing a support group, so they will know to suggest it to patients.  You may be surprised by the number of people who show up.
 
I think you would find, if you had other people like yourself to socialize with, you wouldn't feel so alone and you would take strength from the shared experience and be able to handle other social situations better.  I know that my attitude towards my bowel problems has changed since I got on this forum.  Talking about bodily functions used to be embarrassing; now I don't have a problem talking with other sufferers at all.  And when it's easy to talk about, it's also easier to deal with.  I don't get nearly so uptight when I have a bowel problem now.  I take some medicine, wait near a toilet for about 30 minutes, then go on with my day as if nothing ever happened. 
 
A couple of years ago I went from the U.S. to London and Scotland for two weeks.  My guts got upset because of the travel, but I figured out quickly to skip breakfast; I would let my husband go get something to eat while I stayed in the hotel room, pooped, and took my medicine.  By the time he was back, I was usually ready to go sightseeing and was fine the rest of the day.  That didn't last quite one week; by the time we were in our rental car and driving all over the island, I was good (I was even able to eat breakfast sometimes).  Which was good for me, because it's a lot harder to find a bathroom when you are traveling in the U.K. than in the U.S.  But if I had let myself get really upset over my initial problems, they would have never gone away and then I would have had problems in the car. 

jt80
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 5/29/2009 6:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Guys I know I'll be ok I'm still feeling how I'm feeling cause theres no fiber in my diet I just been eating plain to get ready to take this at home test for the small intestine.Lol yes I know that was a long run on sentence lol but I'm feeling somewhat better yes I do have the fight in me I'm not giving up it's just sometimes I cant take it.I will try to start and post a flyer at the GI center I go to for a IBS support group and see what happens.I'm keeping the faith and just will pray harder and take it one day at a time thanks guys for the encouraging words.

Keriamon
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   Posted 5/29/2009 8:53 PM (GMT -7)   
I think if you could even find one in-person IBS "buddy," you'd feel a lot better. You can get so much support from knowing that someone else has been--and is--where you are. It keeps the spirits up. I don't know what I would have done for 5 years when my gall bladder was acting up if my family had treated me as if I was an attention-seeking liar (as, unfortunately, some people on here have had families treat them).

Bad gall bladders are genetic in my family and apparently we tend to marry people with bad gall bladders too, so just about everyone had had a gall bladder attack, and they all nodded in sympathy when I described mine. My mother had the exact same problem with hers that I had with mine, and she knew what was wrong with me YEARS before a doctor did, just because I had the exact same symptoms she had. We went out with some other family members to eat one time when I was home from college and I ate a few bites and got to feeling sick, and excused myself and went and got in the car (the heat in there made me feel better). My parents hurried through their meal and we went straight home; they understood (my stepfather had been through all of this with my mother and he was actually a nuclear medicine tech and performed HIDA scans on people with bad gall bladders--he did two of mine).
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