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johnny04
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   Posted 5/6/2010 6:53 PM (GMT -6)   
about a month ago I started a new job at a security company. On my third day working I had a really bad ibs-d attack and I had to go home because I was not feeling good. I was so embarrassed that I called my boss a couple of days later telling him that I wanted to quit because I was to sick to work. I told him that I was having stomach problems and that I didn't know what it was, but of course I know I have Ibs. Out of no where without me telling him that I have ibs he asked me if I have Ibs and I told him that the doctors think that I probably have it. I have been dealing with ibs for ten years and this is the first time that I have met someone who had ever asked me this question. I feel lucky because I have met someone who probably understands about ibs because of the question that he asked me. A couple of days later I returned to work and felt very comfortable working because I know that if I have an attack someone would understand. I feel very lucky, Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this messege.

Marsky
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   Posted 5/7/2010 6:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Wow, that is wonderful for you isn't it? Just the sheer fact that a boss understands makes all the difference in the world. Sometimes I tend to freak out about the what ifs and run into trouble because I'm stressing out too much about my gut. When if I force myself to relax it really does help. Of course not in the middle of D, I have to allow that to play itself out but usually when people tell me - "do what you have to do" - I can feel my insides relaxing. When I was interviewed for my piddly part time job, right after I was offered the job and before I accepted it, I told my supervisor my past cancer history and my colon resection. I gave her a brief summary and said I occasionally have bad days. She said and I quote - "that's what sick days are for. I appreciate you being honest with me. Most people are not that honest."

And do you know I've never missed work for my IBS woes? Oh the flu a few times but never my gut problems.

Go figure.

Let's hope this is just the attitude you need at work! Hoping so for your sake Johnny!
- Rectal CA 4/29/99, Stage I, 90% sigmoid/15" of colon/GB removed, temporary colostomy, reversed 6-26-99
- Chronic IBS/D symptoms, multiple bm's, on low residue diet
- Colace 50 mg + Ultimate Flora Critical Care 50 Billion daily


johnny04
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   Posted 5/8/2010 12:47 PM (GMT -6)   
I find that when you are trying to hide the fact that one has IBS is worst because it puts more stress on you. From now on if someone ask me about it I will tell them and I really don't care what they think because they way I see it is that if they where in my shoes they will probably be stress too.

Marsky
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   Posted 5/8/2010 2:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Johnny - we all have to find what works for each of us, and over time. Like you I've been at this for a long, long time. In my case my troubles started after my colon resection. I didn't have any IBS issues prior to surgery. So when I was struggling, rushing to bathrooms, etc. people constantly, constantly said to me - are you STILL having trouble? As if I'd go back to normal! Yes some people can go back to normal after a bowel resection but since my resection was extremely low, I now experience multiple bm's, for life.

I tries several approaches quite honestly:

1. Hoping I would go back to normal (1 or 2 bm's a day).
2. Drastically alternating my diet but still having multiple bm's. Educating people, etc. Not hiding my situation.
3. Finally realizing it is what it is.
4. I stopped educating people and even bothering to explain any of what I go thru.
5. Now, IF they ask, I'm happy to oblige and give a brief description of why I spend so much time in the bathroom.
6. But at this point, I just go about my business and let people think whatever the heck they want to think!

There will probably be a 7th and 8th entry to that list above but for now, my acceptance and what could be described as denial, absolutely works for me!

In fact, my new attitude about it all far greatly reduces any stress. I also noticed the more I tried to explain my situation, the more I lost someone else's ability to even understand 1/10th of what all go thru.

This is why I don't even bother with them.
- Rectal CA 4/29/99, Stage I, 90% sigmoid/15" of colon/GB removed, temporary colostomy, reversed 6-26-99
- Chronic IBS/D symptoms, multiple bm's, on low residue diet
- Colace 50 mg + Ultimate Flora Critical Care 50 Billion daily

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