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nst114
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   Posted 1/24/2007 11:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Well I finally got a home bound teacher today!!!
 
Im so excited because I was so nervous I was going to fail school but now I know there is still a chance that I wont!!!
 
My aunt told me that my whole family was disappointed in me and she said i was a failure and compared me to a drug addict that I always thought about how I would feel and that I should just take medicine and go to school.........she doesnt understand how hard it is for me or I guess other people with IBS
 


Keriamon
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   Posted 1/24/2007 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Um... what medicine? If there was a medicine that cured IBS, like antibiotics can cure a viral cold, then we wouldn't have this board. IBS HAS NO CURE. THERE IS NO MEDICINE TO CURE IT. Maybe you should impress that to your aunt. Actually, she doesn't sound like a very decent human being, so it doesn't seem like there's any good reason to try and explain your very legitimate illness to someone so ignorant. Just be glad you can continue your schooling so you don't end up like her. I assume your parents, who watch your struggles daily, understand how sick you are all the time and don't feel this way?

You are NOT a failure. Plenty of kids get long illnesses (cancer, meningitis, etc.) for which they need home schooling; plenty of other kids are physcially handicapped and can't go to regular school either. Are they failures? Are they bad or disappointing? You haven't done anything to give yourself IBS; how is any of this supposed to be your fault? You've actively pursued homeschooling so that you can continue your education, despite your illness, and this is disappointing and drug-addict-like how? Drug addicts tend to drop out of school; you're still in school, even if it's alternative education.

I think this is a very good opportunity for you, because most homeschooled kids are better educated than mainstream kids because the teacher can slow down when they need help and speed up when they master something. In other words, other kids won't be hindering your learning. May I suggest that, for fun or book reports or to fulfill reading requirements, you try finding some books written in the 1800's or very early 1900's (this company reprints a lot of old books: http://www.applewoodbooks.com/ I bought a book on ettiquette from them that was published in 1866; it's very interesting); the reading level of these books is much higher than the reading level in books for similar-aged persons. It's amazing how dumbed-down our reading levels are in this country compared to 100 years ago. If you can read any book from that time period, I guarantee that your reading level will start outstripping other kids your age, not to mention Jane Austen and Shakespeare will become easier to read as well. And when you read well, you write well, and that's what a lot of colleges really look for. There are no multiple-choice, standardized tests in college; it's all about writing papers.

nst114
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   Posted 1/24/2007 3:18 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks Keriamon I thought I was doing the right thing too.my mom doesnt think im a failure either when I told her about this she said I was doing the next best thing than actually goin to a school my mom has been real helpful through this whole experience she has bought a couple of books including a IBS diet book
 


7Lil
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   Posted 1/24/2007 5:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Nst114,
Congratulations!!   :-)   You are doing what is right for you and that is OK.  It is commendable.  Don't pay attention to your Aunt.  In fact, why don't you send her this link, maybe it will help her understand:
 
Glad you're staying in school!  It will be so much better for you to be stress free.  Enjoy it while you can.  scool
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MommyKimmie
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   Posted 1/25/2007 1:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Good for you! I know how hard it is to control your ibs in school!!! I was a wreck. I think its great that you knew what you needed to do to finish school. And I wish everyone could understand how difficult it is to concentrate on anything when you have your mind on your gut the whole time. I hope your aunt will understand someday.
Blessings-
Kim

nst114
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   Posted 1/25/2007 9:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Exactly what you said I never really paid any attention in some classes because i was too scared on is my stomach gonna make some kind of noise ..or will i have to ask the teacher to go to the bathroom while they are talkin infront of the whole class
 


Keriamon
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   Posted 1/25/2007 9:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Sometimes people get a little better understanding of IBS (at least the D part) by say "It's like have the stomach flu, only it never goes away." That's something pretty much everyone has had and they understand how serious and horrible it is and have some sort of clue about what it would be like if you had to constantly live in the bathroom. Gosh, even most people should be able to understand "I have constipation constantly; I don't go for days and days." It boggles my mind when people CAN'T understand why it's hard to live and do things when you're constantly in the bathroom or worried about needing to be in the bathroom. Can't they at least comprehend that it's embarrassing to have to constantly excuse yourself to go to the restroom?

Sarita
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   Posted 1/25/2007 1:17 PM (GMT -7)   

Okay, I might get some wrath here...but have you tried anything to control your symptoms so that you can stay in school?  I ask because in my opinion (and I must emphasize this is only one person's opinion!), during these years of your life, it is best to stay in a normalized school setting, among your peers.  It's a crucial time in your development and I fear that if you stayed at home because of nervousness or anxiety about your bowel problems, it could heighten them down the road for you during adulthood.

I know how terrible bowel problems can be, and how hopeless people feel when they are enduring them.  I know it's embarassing, especially for a young person, to be going to the bathroom all the time.  But I wonder why no one has suggested treating the symptoms with something that will make it bearable for you to be in a regular school setting. 

I'm not saying homeschooling is bad by any means!  I think it can be really beneficial for some kids.  But if you have been raised going to public school, and suddenly you are home-bound, that can be a pretty big whammy for a youngster.  I'm going to read your other posts to see if I'm missed something, though.


Sarita
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   Posted 1/25/2007 1:24 PM (GMT -7)   

I just re-read some of your posts.  It looks like you've tried a bunch of different stuff to control your symptoms.  Trust me, I know how that feels!  It sucks.  I feel for you.  It sounds like maybe you are considering this home-schooling on a short-term basis, which may be the answer...I'm just really gung-ho about kids being around their peers as much as possible, if possible!

I'm 27 (so much older and wiser!  Just kidding), but I can sympathize; two years ago I missed a lot of work due to my illness, but I found that being around my supportive co-workers, even if it didn't make my symptoms improve, helped cheer me up more than being at home did.  I think people with these kinds of troubles need to rely on as many supportive people as they can.  It sounds like some of your teachers are pretty supportive.  Have you tried having a meeting with your parents and the school principal to see if there's some accommodations that could be made?  Maybe some home-based learning in the morning, when you feel the worst, and then going to school in the afternoon?


nst114
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   Posted 1/25/2007 7:01 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks for your reply
 
the reason I'm going home bound is so I dont fail school by missing so much school I have had IBS since Elementary school so some of the fears of what people think have gone ..... I dont want to go home bound really that much I just think it would be something better to do than have F's in classes I would rather have A's and B's ....but thanks I can understand where you are coming from
 


Keriamon
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   Posted 1/26/2007 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   
If you live in a town of any size, there is probably a local homeschool club; they're quite popular now. They're set up so that the parents and kids that homeschool can get together and socialize, go on field trips together, etc., so that homeschool kids can make friends like themselves. Your mom might check to see if there's anything like that in your area for kids your age; you might could participate some when you're feeling better and not have to worry about losing all social interaction.
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