I take lexapro and do great with it. It didn't help DH, but zoloft did. They are not, however, prescribed for this particular use for us, so can't help you with that end of it. Everyone seems to react uniquely to anti-depressants, so don't be surprised if you have to experiment a while to find the right one for you. Hope it helps!
Living in the Republic of Texas minus a gallbladder, appendix, uterus, and 18" of colon; but living with my wonderful husband, 2 dogs, 1 cockatiel, and 2 gold fish.